Intimacy & Relationships

What would you think if your husband response to you saying you’d buy him some new underwear was ‘I don’t want you buying my underwear’

He was getting ready for work this morning and was moaning that he didn’t have any tops or boxers, I said I ask you every time I go shopping if you need anything and his response was ‘I don’t want you buying my underwear’ I said oh that’s nice, it’s alright for you to buy me underwear but I can’t buy you any. He said yes but I buy you nice underwear- i said well I’m not gonna buy you grandad underwear am I am- and he said ‘I said no, you aren’t buying me my underwear and that’s that’ We’ve been together 15 years and have two kids together. In the past he has been unfaithful, he hasn’t given me any reason to think otherwise other than this comment this morning. We haven’t been getting on very well for the last week. But this has concerned me a little bit as I think it’s a really odd thing to say.

Being a SAHM is soo lonely. I want to build relationships with more moms and be consistent.

So I just found im pregnant (which would be my 3rd). My relationship honestly isn't great at the moment. Was recently considering leaving.

My boyfriend wanted to abort our first (my 2nd who is now 3) so he wants to abort again. But I still don't know if I could go through with an abortion. I feel I would always wonder what if.

Based off how things went previously I know my boyfriend isn't able to give me the support I need. I'm just not sure what to do.

My partner spends irresponsibly and I've been bringing it to his attention for months now to get him to cut back and he's not responding. We have a budget that he never sticks to. We sit down and plan it every month but then he just treats it like he can spend it how he likes probably because he's the only one earning right now. I'm contributing with savings which has been my huge mistake. Last night I went to him to say that I'm concerned we're not going to have enough money to pay for rent next month. He sternly said to me ok tell me what to do about that. I'm not going to tell him what to do and I told him that and that I just need us to communicate these issues and maybe try to tackle them together. His response was that he has nothing to say on it so I started to cry. He asked me did I come to just drop that on him and start crying and I said no, but he might actually act like my boyfriend in this moment. He said that was attacking him and that if I wanted to talk about finances I should come composed and ready to talk... I walked away and he accused me then of being incapable of handling the conversation and walking away as usual.

Reminder: I do not need to hear this is abusive. No judgement means no asking why I'm with this person or telling me to leave.

I've done everything I possibly can to make our family work and without his cooperation it's failed. I've been upholding my boundaries and reminding myself quietly of what I know to be gaslighting. I'm sure others reading this have experienced something similar and I hope things are better for you now. I'm not sure why I'm posting this here... Maybe I just wanted to feel the intimacy that he failed to offer in the moment

Ment to be marrying my partner July next year but in the last couple of months things have been rocky. He spent £800 in one day on onlyfans and has since then done it the odd time again but only £50 a time on the odd occasion. This was until last night where he has spent about £400 again. Would you stay or would you leave. Along side the spending he is messaging these people saying how attractive they are yet he never tells me that. We have a 3 year old together. Sorry it’s not baby related but had no where else to turn.