Am I a bad partner for having ptsd, ppd, and ppa
I just had my 2nd child and I'm struggling with ptsd, ppd, and ppa. I was very sick my whole pregnancy. My partner says he needs a break from me being sick and is going to leave and go out of town for a few days. I'm not mental well enough to be by myself, but lately he is always leaving me alone, never asks how I am, frequently says he needs "me time" and goes over to friends for hours. If I have a bad moment he gets frustrated with me. When I told him I felt like hurting myself he said he was going to call and have me put in the hopsital/an institution. I have no safe place with him when my mental illness gets bad. I feel like a huge burden on him and I'm suffocating in depression, intrusive thoughts, and anxiety. I'm waiting for a call from a postpartum therapist, and I've taken all the steps to get help. I don't understand how he can just leave me to fight this by myself when I'm sick from carrying and birthing and caring for our 2 children. He's left me all alone and made me feel like I'm sick on purpose. He tells me to think about him, or says "what about me? I'm important too" and makes me feel like shit when I do try to go to him for support. He has random moments where he will cuddle me, but as of late he's just eager to get the hell out of the house and to criticize or get frustrated when I'm down or anxious. He told me my thought processes aren't right, and that I react to everything poorly. I have no idea what to do anymore. I'm so scared. I can't battle postpartum ptsd, depression, and anxiety by myself.
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Hi, first of all I am sorry you have to go through this. I just want to give you the biggest hug, and put on head phones so you can let out the LOUDEST scream.
I want to commend you for seeking help, that is the biggest step you can take, admitting that you need help. I hope you get the help that you need professionally.
Do you have anyone else around you for support? Mother, mother in law, sisters, cousins, close friends? Other moms in the area? I know that w Covid, it’s been difficult to connect w people in person. But I really hope for you to have a village of people you can rely on, to take care of the kids while you take care of yourself.
I’m sorry, my heart just aches for you. I’m crying as I’m writing this. I’m not sure where you’re located, maybe you’re close, maybe you’re not.
I suffered from ppd w my first, and did not seek the help that I needed until my son was 18mo old.Waited way too long, but I remember the feelings,the sadness, the anger,the crying, so I feel you
My advise as someone how also has struggled and still does struggle with it, is your husband is an asshole. If you have family that would help you take care of yourself I say take a break from your husband and move in with people who will support you more. I moved back in with my parents when I got really bad because my boyfriend couldn't help me alone. It takes a village so try asking family/friends you are close to if they are willing to help you through this time. Good luck momma ❤️
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This is so unfair, so wrong on so many levels. Like the mama below, feel free to text me as well, anytime. Even if it’s just to vent, or you just need a reassurance that “you got this” I’m here mama. 6479990865. You are not a lunatic, you are a wonderful mother who just needs treatment and most of all SUPPORT. This community is here for you❤️. And so am I
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