Playgrounds nearby

Hi ladies! With this heat I am hoping to find a shaded park/playground to take my little one swinging. Any suggestions of a location in our area?

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CHILD MINDER HELP

Hi guys I'm thinking of getting a childminder for my 16 month old and I currently live in the Barnes area does anyone know any good local ones also if at all possible a Muslim childminder? Also What's your opinion between childminding and nurseries? He's currently in a nursery but I like the idea of him having one person he can grow to trust and learn from as with nurseries you have teachers switching throughout the day which feels may cause some attachment issues.

Am I wrong

So my husband has been gone since early march , my best friend and I have been on the phone night and day she’s been buying stuff for the baby . On her own accord I have not asked her to buy me anything she offers and I am very greatful for that .
Bc it is just me in the house and I don’t eat as much as I should the fridge is a little bare and while on a group call with her and my sister I showed how empty the fridge was all jokes and giggles .
So she’s like I’m gonna get you some groceries ‘ again I did not ask she offered , she had already been spending money on the baby so I’m being considerate and not putting to much in thee cart so I put a family sized frozen Alfredo , some chicken pot pies and a box of mini ritz crackers
She starts basically yelling at me about putting the crackers in the cart , so I go quiet I let her talk , instead of her stopping she continues to get loud and heated about the ritz crackers so she proceeds to say “someone need to teach you how to grocery shop “ basically belittling I tell her to just not get anything for me then my mom says “you better not embarrass me“ so I hang up I don’t allow people to continuously talk to me any type of way especially not my mother. She proceeds to text and call multiple times (the friend) and I don’t answer maybe 44 minutes later I message her thank her for the groceries and explain my issue to her and this is what she sends

Am I being a bad mum??

So this weekend my family had loads of Easter fun planned but my 2 year old has got chicken pox. She's fine in herself, eating and drinking fine etc.

We cancelled plans because we don't want her to spread it.

Ive also had plans to go out locally this evening once kids are asleep for a few drinks with friends, but my husband is giving me a hard time saying im selfish for still wanting to go.

Ive had a rough few weeks and really been looking forward to letting my hair down, kid free for a few hours and now he is making me feel like a shit mum. Am I?

He keeps being violent and getting worse…

Idk why but I keep going back thinking he’ll change but he won’t. I do it because we have a kid together and he’s been helping raise my daughter. But he just is getting worse and worse with his violent outbursts. And it’s messed up to even correlate his actions with anything but I feel as though he’s been cheating on me. And that it’s probably been for awhile. It doesn’t excuse his actions but I guess he doesn’t want a relationship with me anymore so now he’s getting resentful of the fact that I stay despite how horribly I’m treated.

This morning I bought him breakfast from Cracker Barrel and he felt for whatever reason I had a bad attitude. I was only getting a little upset because he started throwing food at me out of nowhere. Like he either wanted me to get mad or upset to either start an argument where I’d cause him to blow up or just cause a situation where we’d break up.

But I didn’t so he just kept pushing my buttons, like telling me to walk out back through the door and walk back in to start the day over. And pretend like nothing else happened. Which I couldn’t because wtf he threw food at me and he’s ordering me around like a dog. But I just do as he says, and walk back through the gate and act like nothing happened. However he’s like pulling me to hug him from where he’s sitting. So I do hug him and then he wants a kiss so I give him a chin kiss.

Idk why but he pulls me down onto his lap, and I’m not really wanting to sit on his lap, so I guess I end up trying to get back up and off his lap. I feel off balanced, like he’s going to slam me on the ground (which is tile) and idk so I freak out, I’m telling him to let me go and he’s fighting against me trying to pull me back down onto him and I’m just scared because he’s like restraining me to him.

Somehow he lets me go but then he slaps me and starts cursing at me. Like how it’s all my fault, and then he throws the rest of the food and water at me. And he’s just ranting and raving about how I’m dumb and how he doesn’t want to look at my face anymore. And during this entire thing he’s telling me how ugly I look and that he used to be with me for my personality but now even that is ruined according to him.

So I’m scared because he has a history of being abusive and I feel trapped in the house with him. He’s yelling and he flips over the table and spills the rest of the food on the floor. I’m just scared that he’ll hurt me even worse and so I’m just trying to agree with everything he says so I can escape. Thankfully he walks to the back room and I manage to run out of the door fast enough to get in public so he can’t pull me back into the house. I go to my moms who thankfully lives next door. It sucks but ofc she doesn’t know the urgency of the situation so she takes forever to get to the door.

I just hate that he can’t control himself, and for whatever reason when I try to get out of his grip or hold if he has one on me, he gets angry and tries to restrain me there even more. Like he was trying to bend me in half and hurt me really badly. Like my bones were going to break.

I honestly think he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me anymore. That he wants to be with the other girl he’s talking to and he hates that I continue to stick around. And I also saw on TikTok that certain men cannot be nice to two women at once, and if he’s putting on a show of niceness for another woman he’ll be meaner and irritable because he can’t put up the act on two fronts. I’m not excusing his violence, but I’ve done something similar to get out of a relationship I didn’t want to be in. I wasn’t violent to the person or overly angry/bullying, I just told them something messed up, that I still had feelings for my ex in hopes of ending the relationship.

Ofc when the other party said they were done and ended the relationship, I freaked out, said I didn’t mean it and begged for another chance. The guy still left anyway, but now I’m thinking of it like this. He’s tryin g to force me to breakup with him, and even though you want to breakup with a person when it happens you’re still going to be like omg wtf did I do? And try to make things right with the other party.

I’m also just sad, because deep down I’m lonely and I don’t really have any family. He has loads of family and I’m jealous. He has tons of people on his side and I basically have my mom and aunt and somewhat my dad and that’s it. My brother is estranged from the family and my dad cut his own family off. And my grandmother died when I was young. My uncle lives in another state and the rest of my mom’s family is in Chicago.

I don’t make friends easily, and I’m avoidant in nature. So when I’m home alone I don’t feel the urge to hangout with other people. And this has resulted in me not having any friends at all. Or I have a few but I rarely hangout or talk with them. I hate that I’m this way because I still feel lonely despite being unable to connect with others. 😭

Food ideas?

Breakfast, lunch and dinner ideas for a baby who doesn’t like eggs or bread?

Will it get better? Nursery worries

Hi!
My LO started nursery last week and went in for two days, after a couple of settling in sessions. The first day was more or less okay, but on the second day he had a cold and really struggled to settle. He hasn’t been back since as we’re on Easter break, and he’ll return on Tuesday.

I’m feeling quite anxious about whether he’ll adapt to nursery. I go back to work next week and I’m worried about getting calls saying he’s not okay.

If anyone has been through something similar and it got better, I’d really love to hear your experience or any words of encouragement 🤍