i found out in july 2022 that i was pregnant with my first child and my mom has always been sick but shortly after receiving the news her health declined quickly. on october 18th she passed and right as she was passing away i found out that i was having a baby boy and now that we’ve had her funeral (november 4th) i feel like i can’t cope with her loss or handle being pregnant anymore. i’m currently 19 weeks and 3 days.
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Hi Markeyta, firstly I am so sorry for your loss. My father had been ill for a lot of years but died suddenly in April when I was 5months pregnant so I feel your anguish so personally. My Dad was so looking forward to becoming a grandfather and it breaks my heart every day to see my daughter and know how much he would have adored her but soon after he died and I felt like I couldn't cope, I decided to channel that love he would have had for her and knew how much he would have made damn sure I'd stayed calm during my pregnancy so to delivery her safely into this world so in a way I kind of had to park my grief. Now that my daughter is born (we made her middle name Noelle as he was called Noel to honour him) I have some days where I sob my heart out missing him but then I look at her and know what he'd want me to do, keeping healthy, calm and focused on giving her the best life possible. This is what helped and has helped me and I hope it can bring you some comfort to know that it will get better ♡♡♡