Dealing with Grief while pregnant

I'm a mother of 1 soon to be 2 under 2 and I'm not sure how to cope with the soon to be loss of my grandmother. My fiance has been trying his hardest to help make me feel better about the situation as he has been through this with his granddad and is now experiencing it once again with my own relative he considers his. I appreciate him so much for trying. My baby has been incredibly restless. I've been losing sleep barely eating much, not getting out of bed much and not wanting to do a lot. I try to clean and keep occupied but it's always small little things that start my tears and idk how I'm gonna handle the actual death if I'm already the way I am now. I am nearly due in less than 2 months and my body hurts all over and I know this grieving pain is part of the reason for it. Ontop of all the other stuff going wrong in my life how can I handle coping with a loss of a family member and still have the strength to handle a newborn and a 11 month old baby? I need advice.

Today this morning I had a freak out moment and tore my house apart out of the frustration of everything I've been dealing with ontop of the grieving pain. It's the hardest thing I've been through in my life and I've been through it big time. How do you handle random outbursts? Hopefully someone can reach out and help me soon. Thanks for reading.

I’ve really been struggling recently… I was really close with my Grandad and he got diagnosed with liver cancer at the end of Nov 2021. He was put on end of life care immediately due to how aggressive the cancer was. We couldn’t believe it. It was suck a shock.

The cancer was unfortunately non treatable due to how far along he was with it, and they gave him a timeframe of a months life expectancy. None of the information sunk in at the time and we didn’t want to believe he was going to be gone from our lives.

I really struggled with his diagnosis as I no longer lived in my home town as I’m now married and live a couple of hours away due to my husband being in the military. It was extremely difficult to find the time to visit often and be there as much as we could.

My Grandad was such a family man, he loved being surrounded by his family, loved babies, loving being involved with everyone… he was an all around happy guy. I remember after his diagnosis me and my husband told him we had been trying for a baby for a couple of months (we got married in the September 2021 and had been keeping it a secret, but we knew how much he would love the news) which he did, he was so incredibly happy for us.

I had some fertility issues going on so we didn’t catch on as quick as we’d hoped… my Grandad passed away in March 2022 a week after his 73rd birthday. I was devastated… luckily we managed to see him the Sunday before he died (he passed early hours of the Tuesday morning after) so we got to say our goodbyes which was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I’m so proud of him for showing the nurses he could last longer than they’d predicted! They didn’t even think he’d make it to Christmas. He’s amazing 🤍

On the 16th May 2023 we found out we are pregnant with our first baby ✨🤍 it is our miracle. I got diagnosed with PCOS at the beginning of this year and got told we probably wouldn’t ever be able to have children… we were so shocked but so unbelievably happy 🤍

Since finding out I have really struggled mentally as I haven’t been able to tell my Grandad this amazing news. He had been there for me through everything in life. He was there for me when I left my ex abusive boyfriend and he prayed I’d find someone who would make me happy… and he saw me do that and marry the most amazing man I’ve ever met ✨ I’m so pleased he saw me happy finally. I’m just so so upset he isn’t alive to hear he’s having a great grandchild. It breaks my heart.

I don’t think I’ve fully grieved the loss of my Grandad. I miss him terribly. I think it’s normal to feel this way when big life events happen as you wish they were here to see it. Losing someone is so tough, I don’t even know why I’ve wrote all of this out… I think I just needed to actually write how I feel down as I’ve kept a lot of it inside recently.

I’m seeing this baby as a gift from Grandad ✨🤍 I’m not usually one to think things like this but in this case I feel like he’s blessed us with our little miracle.

Heaven has gained an angel, and our beautiful baby will be entering this world in his place ✨🤍

Sorry for the really long and emotional post. It’s one of those days lol

My father in law passed away yesterday, he’s been poorly for around a year but has been doing great and his death has been very sudden and shocking.

I’m 23 weeks pregnant today, and let my midwife know as I’m already at a higher risk of pre-eclampsia, but I wanted to reach out to a group of women who may have been through a similar thing as I need to look after my husband, his mum and also myself and little man.

Can anyone recommend anything I can do to get through these next few weeks especially whilst making sure I keep baby safe?

FTM - 30 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. So I'm my parents' only kid. I've been excited, happy, anxious but the good kind, you name it most of my pregnancy. My dad has been sick for so many many years that it's become a way of life for him. He was excited about his first grandkid, so excited. But he passed away yesterday. I'm broken. My husband is being so supportive and my friends too, I'm so grateful! I just can't believe it happened. Like he's in so much more of a better place from a life time of needles and hospital visits and he's been a happy man. But it's my dad and I can't get myself to really process that. I'm worried for my baby and so I try staying distracted and super occupied but idk. It's hard, I want to do whats right for my baby and he'd want that. But I also want to process his loss right. Any advice?

i found out in july 2022 that i was pregnant with my first child and my mom has always been sick but shortly after receiving the news her health declined quickly. on october 18th she passed and right as she was passing away i found out that i was having a baby boy and now that we’ve had her funeral (november 4th) i feel like i can’t cope with her loss or handle being pregnant anymore. i’m currently 19 weeks and 3 days.