Father in law passed away @ 23 weeks pregnant

My father in law passed away yesterday, he’s been poorly for around a year but has been doing great and his death has been very sudden and shocking.

I’m 23 weeks pregnant today, and let my midwife know as I’m already at a higher risk of pre-eclampsia, but I wanted to reach out to a group of women who may have been through a similar thing as I need to look after my husband, his mum and also myself and little man.

Can anyone recommend anything I can do to get through these next few weeks especially whilst making sure I keep baby safe?

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Hello! I’m so sorry for your loss but I understand the pain with my first pregnancy my grandfather passed away when I was 20 weeks pregnant and it destroyed me. I was also caring for my family and trying to take care of my baby. I would honestly do a lot of self care. Try doing things to help you relax and keep stress low. I would also be on as much bed rest as possible since your already at a higher risk to help keep baby safe. When it comes to your family just be there for them. Love them and ask them if there is anything they need. Sometimes they just need love and space to process the death. I would also journal and let your feelings out so your not holding it in. Just remember to breathe and take things one day at a time. It’s what I had to do. I am always happy to talk with you anytime. But try to keep your stress levels down but just love and care for your family. 💕

so sorry to hear about your loss too. It’s just awful. As much as we knew it was coming at some point, we weren’t expecting it yet so it’s hit us all.

Thank you so much for your advice, I appreciate it massively xx

I’m so sorry for your loss, I’ve not been pregnant when losing someone but I’ve still lost family when they were young and it was sudden too! I know how hard this is for me I went to counseling with a therapist because grief is really hard and that helped, so I recommend that if u can find some place to go to for your grief also writing out my feelings helped! I’m sorry again for your loss!

thanks madison. I’ll look into that too, especially for my husband as well as I know just how much he’s going to struggle with this x

grief is so hard I struggled really bad when it was both my grandparents that past back to back 2017,2018 and I wasn’t home when that happened, but I remembered I needed help and therapy and support helped

I don't really have much advice but I'm in a similar situation. 33 weeks pregnant and I lost my mom 2 weeks ago. I've just been crying a lot and I've accepted a lot of help from my family. My husband's family have brought me and my dad meals and they've watched my toddler quite a bit.

I’m so so sorry Lauren, that must be so hard. That’s really good that they’ve been on hand to help, I’ll definitely lean on my family too x

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