Overstepping in-laws or am I crazy?

Wouldn’t be having that personally it’s your baby! P

This is not okay, Please message me if you can & want to talk about this! Xxx

they haven’t overstepped

they’ve ran a full marathon across the line, this is crazy!

defo start having word with your partner that you are considering moving back with your parents if the behaviour doesn’t change or buy a lock for your door

that’s what i would do anyway

You are not crazy, I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that too. I hope you get the help you need and the right advise on how to go about this. x

No this is highly unacceptable. I would be furious too! I would say lock your doors and never leave your baby out of sight

That’s not okay. No grown adult should be cuddling with a baby not belonging to them naked. It doesn’t matter how closely related. Honestly, if you have the option to and wanted to move back with your parents and leave your spouse with his until you guys found a house that is okay too and it doesn’t matter how the in laws feel. Don’t set yourself up for a life where your feelings are over looked and you aren’t allowed to speak much for yourself. Advocate for you and baby! I have been here so I 100% understand and you are completely valid in how you feel mama, don’t beat yourself up. Do what’s best for you. Congratulations on being a mommy 💝

You need to LEAVE NOW. Even if that means going without you fiance.

This is NOT normal and you need to protect your baby from potential child sexual exploitation. No grandad should be cuddling your baby naked in bed, are you mad?

If you stay you will be complicit.

That is a major red flag and so scary for the grandad to be going that. If you can go and stay with your family do that ASAP. If not start renting somewhere even if it’s a studio apartment at least your child is safe

If you are sure they aren't being pedo like with baby ... then I'd say lock your room?? How are they having free access the baby in the middle of the night?? Does bub sleep separately from you?? If yes simply bring bub in your room next to you and lock and barricade door if needed. No need to ask anyone just do it.
Keeping in mind that y'all are so young... you both need to learn ESPECIALLY YOU AS MUM to critically think and say no while being SMART about it. You have to be tough and smart. Because they are family and you are under thrir roof with a baby so peace has to be prevailed. Hence why I say move slowly and just have bub right there w you at night. I am sure they can't yank bub off you like that. The son ... you need to also watch out for partners who are not able to advocate for their 2 families .. such partners are problematic.
However I'd simply say here ... TIME TO MOVE OUT TO YOUR OWN HOME ... good luck I hope you find it and soon.

I would have a full on rage fit if anyone other than my partner came into my bedroom while I was sleeping and took away my baby. That's literally my biggest nightmare. You're not crazy. Thdy might be! If your partner doesn't listen, I would seriously consider looking for alternative accommodation asap (with our without him tbh!). It's your baby, not theirs - not to mention, they have no right to come into your bedroom while you're sleeping in the first place! Honestly, wtf?!

I don’t think granddads should be doing skin to skin with their little granddaughters. I think for male relatives, the dad is ok and that’s it. They need to stop. Tell your in-laws they are overstepping and to back off. Thanks for their help but from now on there are boundaries not to be crossed. No cosleeping, no overnights, etc. My Mom oversteps like it’s her job so I know how parents and in-laws tend to not get that your the parent and your word for your child trumps theirs

What? The grandad is cuddling with the baby naked. No way. Did he just have his shirt off or was he completely naked. I can see with the shirt off but not with pants off. That is just gross. I would not allow this and I would even leave my fiance if he said it was exceptable and I wouldn't think twice. I would not put my baby in a situation like this. You got to stop this please for your babies sake.