Need to vent

I've got a man toddler too, I've resorted to notes on the walls that he can't miss. It's so draining having to repeat myself. Not a hormonal pyscho I just think we ask for the bare minimum? Xx

No! not at all, I have never related to something so much. My partner was AMAZING for the first 2 or so weeks as I had an emergency c section so he did absolutely everything for me and baby, but he's been back at work 5 nearly 6 weeks now and I've had to have the same conversation a couple of times. I feel awful because he's working but being at home with our baby all day everyday isn't all sunshine and rainbows, there's no 'sleep when baby sleeps' when baby sleeps it's bottles and washing and a house clean and trying to find time to eat which most days I don't and I've had to explain that multiple times! But i told him last time that him being at home with us is no help to me so he might as well move back to his mums, I feel like I kind of gave him an ultimatum but since then he's been a different person! It's frustrating it had to come to that and having to ask your partner for 'help' when it's OUR child but I feel like sometimes men just need things repeating for them to get it😩🫠xx

Explain the concept of mental load when you're both calm, it's a good starting point

Why do us mom's have to go through this with these men, I'm with my babies 24/7 and sometimes all we need is for them to help but they refused to, they are so selfish they only think about themselves, Ive had the same conversation with mine and it's always I'm tired or I forgot I'm sick of it honestly

That would be so better 😁

Try the "could you possibly..." Then gradually move it to the "do the fucking..."

You’re not overreacting at all ❤️❤️❤️ your feelings are based around his actions - I would try and have a conversation about just the reality of motherhood.
I have the opposite where my partner does every thing around the house job wise to avoid spending too much time with baby, especially when he’s being fussy ….😏

So relatable! My partner was absolutely amazing for three weeks after my c section, I couldn’t fault him at all! But now I’m juggling two kids, recovery and housework and everything else pretty much on my own!
I broke yesterday and told him I can’t keep doing it on my own and it has to change!
Unfortunately sometimes they forget that even though they’re physically going to work everyday, we still have one hell of a job we’re doing at home!