Social media problem

They don’t, and you’re not overthinking it. If he doesn’t see why this is disrespectful then he’s not trying to be considerate of your feelings and honestly that would not be okay in my book.

his excuse is “it doesn’t mean anything”. But then why still do it. I have read on forums that girls are like just let them follow whoever, you can’t control a guys social media. I’m not saying don’t watch, but don’t follow.

Thanks for the comment. I’m literally going insane constantly thinking about this and not having the energy to bring it up with him again so I don’t come across as crazy.

In my opinion, women make exceptions for the shitty behavior because they know they can’t stop him from doing it so they just allow it. Someone who genuinely cares about your feelings would listen to your concerns, and treat them with compassion. It may not mean anything to him but it does to you, and he should be compassionate to that. Sounds like you need to clearly explain to him why it bothers you, in a calm way, so he doesn’t become defensive. Maybe also calmly try asking him how he would feel if you were to follow hundreds of accounts of hot fitness guys and started spending your time admiring them, as he probably never even stopped to put himself in your shoes and imagine how you feel.

Thank you. I appreciate that. It’s been twice and both times I’ve been made to feel like there’s nothing wrong with what he’s doing. He’s almost 40 and the reality of him watching girls in their 20s surely would make any woman feel uncomfortable?
They’re not celebrities..they’re attainable women doing it for the attention and he’s giving it.

I suppose me writing it down on here is helping me understand I’m not being overly dramatic. I hopefully make somewhat of a valid point at least?

Yeah you do!! I have tons of experience with men like this and I find the behavior sickening. The women they obsess over in some cases are literally young enough to be their daughter. This behavior can stop you just need to make it known you won’t tolerate it and stand by it.

Thanks lovely. I will talk to him about it in person when he’s back home. It’s not okay and I shouldn’t be the one crying in silence when we’re literally two weeks away from giving birth to our first child.

No you definitely shouldn’t and that’s a great point to bring up to him too, that for the sake of your mental health and your child’s health he needs to really be more sensitive to your feelings

What if he goes down the path again and says why are you watching who I’m following? That’s a bit extreme is the words he used last time..

Thats him gaslighting you and trying to deflect the responsibility. You’re clearly watching it for a reason, because he’s following so many women!! I’m sure if you didn’t take notice of it to begin with you’d not be curious enough to keep watching

Thanks so much 🤍 that’s exactly how I feel! Thank you for articulating it xx