Need advice ASAP

Hi, sorry you are going through this x Ru in the UK? If so Ur paediatrician will have access to diagnosis no matter what office but I'd want her seen sooner than later for medication as it can take a while to get the right titration xx

Ah no, Im so sorry and I know it can be exhausting!

My daughter used to climb up the gates too! Sounds more like it could also be autism and sensory maybe with adhd?

Corners and punishment didnt work for our daughter, we took things away that she liked, for example a bowl of custard and we would take away a few spoons of custard.

She had concerta for a few years and now as a teen, doesnt take it etc
She's very good now, like a different child...only took a few years and we enrolled her into swimming lessons as a child that helped with the energy.

Good luck and strength to you all

Remember to take a time out for yourself too xx

From US and I’m just feeling like a shitty mom I’ve been pushing for 2yrs to get her a diagnosis and they said it’s to young or she isn’t in school yet and it’s like 4 isn’t to young I swear she’s got more than ADHD like Atisum or ashburgers because they run in the family atleast one person on each side has one or the other but i feel like I’m failing as a mom because they won’t listen to me (doctors) and then when I pushed it I think she’s missing a diagnosis along with ADHD because I even asked if Biopolar could be a reason because she switches moods fast and I don’t know if it’s something she has or lack of sleep on her part but they said bipolar can’t be diagnosed until she’s a teen I’m just at a loss on things to do with her I feel like they will flip out on me if I take her to the pediatrician for meds instead of therapist office who deals with the stuff then I feel like pediatricians won’t take me seriously but either way I don’t want her harming herself because she can’t stop

Her behavior 😭

Does she have an official ADHD diagnosis? How old is she? Here in the UK they don't like to diagnose under 5/6 unless extreme cases but that is rare. Medication also is only licensed from the ages of 5/6 (obs can be prescribed off license at clinicians discretion) xx

Ok couple very important things here.

1. For safety, immediately go get window locks and alarms that latch well above her reach. Idk what kind of windows you have, but most windows would be suitable for some sort of lock mechanism that could be installed where she cannot reach it. You can also get alarms that will go off if window is tampered with so you can sleep a little easier.

2. Pediatrician likely will not be able to do anything until the evaluation is complete and psych prescribes something. Then continuation of care can likely be transferred back to peds.

3. Definitely STOP putting her in a corner like immediately. ADHD brains do NOT function that way. It will make her lash out worse. An alternative to time out is a calm down corner, or spot (maybe not corner since she now has a negative association with them). Basically it is a safe space that you set up some comfy pillows and some calming sensory toys and quiet like books, rain stick, a soft stuffy, rainbow color changing light, white noise machine, etc. You can find ideas on Instagram, tiktok, pinterest, etc. The idea is not to punish her by sending there, but to give her a space to cool off and help regulate her body before you talk about what happened and why it was a problem.

4. Confronting kids with adhd in an aggressive or judgemental way will only amplify the issue for them. She likely also has ODD oppositional defiance disorder. Many kids with adhd struggle with it and it basically makes them really react strongly to being reprimanded or opposed in anyway. The key is to help her feel supported like you are on her side and then she will be more susceptible to doing things your way.

5. Another thing people with adhd often struggle with (myself included) is RSD rejection sensitivity disorder. Meaning we are incredible sensitive to rejection or perceived rejection. It makes us lash out in crazy ways. Even as an adult this is something that I struggle with and really have to work hard to keep in check or it can cause me to spiral and almost throw tantrums like a child.... its rough, being more aware of it as an adult helps me becuase when I feel that way i remind myself its the rsd and not actually what's happening. But a child doesnt have this mental capacity, so it feels like their world is burning down. Being put in a corner for example likely makes her feel rejected by her parents when she craves security and connection to you.