What counts as healthy teasing in a relationship?
Ok Ladies. So I'm known to be sensitive so idk if I'm overreacting or not.
My BD & I have different taste in food. He thinks alot of stuff I eat is nasty & thinks I always pick the worse restaurants to eat at.
So he always picks at me. If he sees me going in the fridge to get something, he'll wait there to see what I'm getting then he'll make a comment if it's something he don't like. For an example, he seen me getting an ensure and he doesn't like those so he says, ew you drink those? Those are nasty.
Another time, we went out to eat and I was craving pizza so we BOTH agreed to go get pizza. Well, he ended up ordering something that he didn't like so he blamed me for picking that restaurant. Smh.
The other night, I was ordering food and immediately goes, "You still ordering from that place"? I'm sitting there confused because I never even ordered from that place before.
If I go to put mustard on my burger, he goes, "Ew, mustard is nasty. I can't eat that. How do you eat that"?
He literally always gotta make a negative comment every time I eat or order food. If I bring this up to him, he's automatically gonna use the "I'm sensitive" card & say he just playing.
But it's starting to annoy tf out of me and it's pissing me off. Like, I don't have to like the same stuff he likes. He constantly on my back about it. I can't even eat in front of him.
Am I being too sensitive and should just let it go?
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Here’s an incident I remember from When my first baby was in kindergarten. There was a boy in her class who used to pick on her everyday and comment on what she’s eating from her lunchbox. It reached to an extent where she stopped opening her lunch box because she was scared that he’s going to be mean to her.
Your post reminds me of that so I definitely think it’s juvenile of him to do what he’s doing . Also you are not forcing him to eat/drink what you are so he doesn’t need to say stuff. Lastly being respectful toward your choices is something he should do. Even though on the surface it may seem like he’s just joking if this humour bothers you it’s not funny. It’s hurtful so he must stop. Much love to you💕
I think HE just has his OWN issues with food that he needs to work out and it doesn’t involve you lol. He reminds me of my own husband, not in the ridicule way but my husband WILL be picky about what he eats. He likes NO condiment unless it’s bbq sauce or ranch, and then freaks out when he learns bbq sauce is MADE from ketchup 🤦🏽♀️ I think some men can just be like our children, that’s why they need us to help them get through life 🤣
My husband teases me with things he knows will make me smile. One time, I tried (and failed) to eat an entire fried egg in one bite. He still teases me about it. But I laugh with him, and tease him back with things I know will make him laugh. If there are issues that bother me, I tell him it bothers me and he doesn't do it anymore. I think this is healthy. Sounds like your guy isn't respecting your wishes of how you want to be treated. I'm all for gentle teasing, but sounds like he is just trying to put you down.
It’s healthy if you’re both enjoying it, he just sounds like he’s being annoying as hell!
My husband loves to mess with me (and other people lol) but if he knows something bothers me he stops.
If you tell him it’s bothering you and you’d like him to stop, and he doesn’t/calls you sensitive he’s being a douche and not respecting your boundaries. If he can’t respect this one fairly easy request I’d be concerned about what other boundaries he wouldn’t care about.
Nah he needs to grow up and find a new way to be funny.
Sometimes “just teasing/joking” is actually covert abuse
Sensitive or not your feelings are still valid. People should accept that, and be considerate of your feelings regardless of whether they think you should have them or not 🤔
I have a very thick skin and people around me can get offended on my behalf where I don’t see a problem! I don’t tell them they’re sensitive, I acknowledge they don’t like something and stop saying/doing it in front of them.
We all respond differently to everything and can’t dismiss people that don’t deal the same. Maybe your partner needs to hear you talk this through, or you could irritate him with the same behaviour to show him how it feels and help him get the message? I do that to evoke empathy 😅
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My husband will stand over my shoulder when I'm making myself food and tell me how he would make it if he were me. Drives me nuts! I just do the same back to him 😂 Or tell him how good it is when you're eating it. I just pick and choose my battles. Sometimes I just have him make it, I kinda win in the end because I don't have to make food amd just add what I want to after he's done 😎
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