MIL wants to FaceTime everyday

It’s been 8 months and mine still calls almost everyday so I’d say valid

@Micaela okay NOOO I wouldn’t answer at that point it would be too much. I don’t think I could do a month of that without having to set boundaries

@Melinda do you sometimes not answer?

@Marlowe yeah I can’t do it. It will annoy me

My mother in law face timed my kids nearly every day to begin with, now it’s a few times a week and that’s perfect. On the days I don’t want to talk I just give the phone to the kids. Sometimes it just a quick two minutes. Other times she’ll talk longer but I appreciate how much effort she makes to be a part of the kids lives. You will find not everyone will make that much effort. On the days you feel over whelmed maybe don’t answer and just send a text saying you’ll call her back that’s what I do and there’s no hard feelings. But I understand it can get too much sometimes just try to find common ground x

I do not answer anymore but then she calls my husband just to “talk” which turns into a long FaceTime smh

@Melinda Yes this is exactly me haha! I make effort back with her because she deserves it but on the days I just don’t want to converse I just don’t answer lol. No hard feelings doing that I don’t think

I would get maybe once max twice a week if she lived a good distance away and couldn't see the baby and the other way

Valid. Set the boundaries now

I think It’ll calm down but I mean I loveee that my babies have others who show them so much love and support and want to be part of their lives. Not everyone has that so I wouldn’t cut that off just yet, you may need or want that.

In my opinion it gets worse after baby comes so if you need boundaries in place id be setting them now

I’d only answer if it was convenient for you. If she doesn’t understand that then I’d have your husband speak to her about boundaries. You’re going to be very busy!

Just only answer when you feel like it. It’s your phone. You’re not obligated to answer anyone’s calls right when they ring. Or what you can do is answer but prop your phone on something so she can just see the baby. I do that with my mom when I don’t feel like talking

Maybe speak to your spouse and ask him to suddly set some boundaries

Just don’t answer and reply hours later sorry I’ve been too busy with the baby. I will see if I can get you tomorrow. Keep doing that and she will know you can’t talk every day

my in laws live across the country, they didn’t like to communicate with us before the baby but now that he’s here my MIL is up our ass. She broke a few of the rules we had in place so im not her biggest fan rn so i just don’t answer. Especially the video calls, my tits are out 24/7 and i got shit to do and a baby to take care of. It’s okay to not answer or tell her everyday is excessive for new parents

Lol My M.I.L who is a fake ass person to me is only acting friendly towards me now because she wanted to call me every day and for me to send her pics at least one a day. I made it very clear that wasn't gonna fly with me even though she kept calling me. I still accept her phone calls and send her pics every now and then but I did not feed the every day scenario, absolutely not.

Omg I thought my MILs excitement and extra dramatic ways were bad. But this?! This is tooooo much. I don’t think it will calm down… it’ll just get worse when babies here. It’s valid and you need to talk to your husband and set boundaries. Agree with Dom because if you continue to feed it then you’re setting a precedent that it’s ok to do it & for her to continue :)

My baby is due soon: If anyone on my husbands side of the family wants to FaceTime this will be done when he’s home from work and he can do it lol Not only do I never FaceTime anyone, I will not be having time or energy for this with a newborn lol I have no problem sending photos/videos, but FaceTime just isn’t for me. Maybe communicate with your husband that this is something he can take care of when he’s not busy at work.

Thanks everyone for all the input! This is helpful and good to know that this actually happens!? Haha I am grateful of course that she will love our baby and be involved. But yeah I don’t even think my own mother will be calling more than once a week and that’s my own mom 😂 I think I will start small with simply not answering when I’m busy or not in the mood and just send a short text saying I can’t talk. If it seriously becomes an everyday thing I will have to tell her that I simply don’t have that kind of energy and I’d be happy to send a quick picture etc or something alternative to a FaceTime