Hello! Opinions on Phone use and rules.

My daughter is soon to be twelve and her obsession with her phone is so real. It started during the pandemic and I haven’t found a way around it. She doesn’t have many friends due to her being homeschooled this year. She goes to class once a week and is doing very well except She’s always been to herself. She has one shitty friend from a previous relationship of mines. She plays on her phone from the time she wakes up until she passes out. She says playing online games makes her feel like she has friends. We spend time together but of course she’s getting to that age where I’m not cool anymore lol I get it. What are your rules for phone use? If you have a loner child how do you keep them active and not on their phone? I’ve been searching for months for mom groups with children her age but it seems in my area all the children are younger. TIA for replying to my post I appreciate you taking the time out to assist me in this matter. ✌🏾

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Heyyy Mama!! You are not alone. I too had this issue with my 11 yr old daughter at the beginning of the school year. We’ve come a long way since then lol but things I did to help implement changes were I did not completely cut her off from her devices I instead limited her screen time to just the weekends for about 2 hours per day. I also went ahead and signed her up for different activities so this past year she did music lessons, basketball, and Drama club, with the weather getting nice I would also suggest outdoor activities like walks going to the park etc. This should hopefully help with her with getting some in person socialization going!

Thank you I really appreciate you replying and with helpful tips.🤎🤎

I have a 12yr old. Ive had to backtrack with the phone thingy. I hear ya!!

My son will be 12 next month. He has it worse than my daughter tho so I ended up getting an app called family link that I can control how long mine play on theirs and it sets time limits on their phones. I take them to the public library as well every two weeks. They have to read it and we discuss it once it’s finished. I try and take them for small hikes and get them outdoors. We also have a pond and a cabin. My daughter loves to go fishing but he would rather ride four wheelers through the trails. I recently got a lil racket ball net and put outside he loves for me to play with him on it.

My daughter is 11 and I definitely understand where you're coming from what the obsession with the phone. We only allow her to use it a couple hours out of the day and only after homework is finished and her phone is used as a punishment as well depending on what action the behavior was. Message me if you want to talk more.

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