My husband keeps hiding my belongings
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@Ag somebody told me to do that but I’m scared hel find it
sorry but why is he doing those things? it is seems that he have issues and you should be careful. try to look for the hidden camera secretly. Just be careful
I wouldn’t even bother confronting him. Pack your stuff and leave. Then serve him divorce papers. That’s a type of crazy you can’t fix.
Amazon has devices that scan and find hidden cameras. I would also try to figure out how to leave him. This sounds scary and abusive to me. He sounds like he has some major mental health issues…thats he is clearly not going to get help for. I see narcissistic traits described.
Oh my goodness… this sounds highly controlling / abusive. I think he needs some serious psychiatric help! Do you feel safe at home with him? Does anyone know about this behaviour?
Sounds like he’s bringing women . Why in earth would your partner hide your stuff . Why In hell would he quickly delete camera footage
Bro I’d leave that’s so scary! This word is wrongly thrown about a lot, but it’s the definition of gaslighting. He’s making you feel crazy
At first I thought “Is this a joke? Lol is he trying to prank you or something?” But then I read the rest and yeah either he’s bringing women in or he’s just not ok… also, why do you think he’s hidden a Câmera in the house?
That is fucking weird behaviour and sounds like he is gaslighting you for some reason, probably because he had to have control? That’s not normal, and you should NOT feel unsafe around your husband. I would get ready to make an exit plan ASAP.
Leave
You need to leave. If your wanting to find where his camera is, do something really strange or out of character in one room, just that room, see if he says anything, then you might be able to whittle it down x
Maybe set up that camera and then dip out for awhile on a girls trip or family trip he doesnt get to know about. See what becomes of you being gone (other ladies?)
This is so bizarre and honestly, it makes me feel scared for you. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out. Gaslighting is abusive and doing things in front of you like this makes me wonder if he’s testing the waters to behave even more strangely. If your worried about cameras being in the house, you’re probably not wrong. Atefa Hidden Camera Detectors, Bug Detector, Spy Camera Detector, RF Detector, Car GPS Tracker Detector, Listening Device Detector - 5 Levels Sensitivity, 3 Professional Modes Protect Your Privacy https://a.co/d/bDexjLu
Does your husband have any mental health issues ?
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This is definitely gaslighting
This is the definition of gaslighting. It’s very common with narcissists… Be careful. Can you confide in anyone you trust to help you?
@Sarah sounds like it! But if he’s narcissistic it’s more difficult to manage believe it or not.
@Andrea yes it’s very difficult to manage , My sons dad is a narcissist so I know how much of a nightmare it is dealing with someone like that!
I have kids with him. I applied for a divorce and he said he’s signed everything off and just waiting on the next steps but he’s even lied about that too. I received an email yesterday saying he’s missed the deadline for reviewing the paperwork and still not got back to them. He keeps lying about everything.
Thank you for your replies and help ladies. I do think he has a mental health problem but is in denial so will never get help for it. He had red flags before we got together 10 years ago but he somehow managed to make me feel sorry for him and try to help him (by giving him all of my money and everything I had 🤦🏻♀️). Now I’ve got children with him and his behaviour is getting worse and he won’t let me leave.
That sounds awful… have you got any family or friends that can support you? If you are in the uk, you could contact a charity like refuge, your health visiting team or the police for support. They can help you to make an exit plan and maybe even help you find somewhere to go to
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I don’t know where you are but if you’re in the US, there are a few sources that could help you. I would start with the domestic violence phone number and they will be able to connect you with other resources. “Domestic violence” isn’t contingent upon whether or not he’s hitting you. This is abuse.
My ex was the same. Run and don’t look back!
@Stacey thank you for saying this! So many women stay in abusive relationships because they don’t believe it’s “abuse”. This is classic textbook definition of mental abuse period! He sounds like a next level narcissist in my opinion. I’m a mental health expert so to speak, and please at the very least am him to get counseling with you, however, I suggest you leaving and then seeking counseling if that’s a route you want to go. I believe strongly in marriage, and that we would always try to work it out when able… but this sounds unsafe honestly, like he is grooming you to see how much he can get away with. Please proceed with caution whatever you do. Trust your instincts! If you feel unsafe, you’re not crazy, get out!
That mutha fucka crazy as hell!!
is he using drugs
This definitely sounds like some Lifetime crazy mess here. By me loving lifetime I am starting to think that he might try and use something against you so he could leave. I would leave him that’s crazy. Please be careful!
The reason why I suspect he might have a camera is because.. he said he wanted to install a camera inside the house to make sure the cat is ok.. makes no sense whatsoever because there’s no reason for it to not be ok and he doesn’t even care about his own kids; so baffles me why he would need to check on the cat like that. I told him I don’t want a camera and he kept asking why, I said because I need privacy inside the house and he couldn’t really understand that.
@Stacey thank you so much Stacey ❤️ I’m actually from the UK. I’ve wanted to call the police so many times because he actually scares me but what can I even say?! He’s never lifted a finger on me or the children so nobody will take anything seriously
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@Hannah I’m really worried to contact anybody incase social services get involved (which they will) and I don’t want anybody taking my kids. I know he’s got a really nasty side to him and he’s so convincing when he talks to people. He comes across as the nicest most chill guy. I just know he can ruin my life by using the kids because they’re the only thing in my life that I truly love and care about and he’s already threatened me about it before 😔
I know how frustrating and painful that is. You have a better grasp on the UK politics that go into this stuff than I do. I wonder if you’re able to quietly build an escape plan, would social services get involved? If you have a safe place to take them, access to funds or a job, is there anything that they could actually do?
This is like the definition of gaslighting and crazy making. You need to get personal counseling asap to navigate untangling yourself from this covert narcissist. Go slow and keep calm. Unfortunately you are going to have to be calculating. Document what you can in a calendar, including specific dialogue.
If you are sure that he has camera in the house just be naked and dance all the time lol btw maybe he is kleptomaniac
@Stefania lolol yes he will be so curious he will have to bring it up
Can you install a camera in the house to see what’s happening