Jealous SIL

So for background my partner has 3 sisters , his eldest sister has 4 kids and struggles financially despite her hubby working 3 jobs alongside herself working. She fully expects everyone else in the family to pay for her kids! Myself and my partner are expecting our first baby in the next few weeks. In that time two of her kids birthdays are coming up and she has been insisting we buy expensive gifts for them to save them money …we have told them we cannot afford this due to baby and she said we should be helping them out as we only have one child whose not arrived and they have 4 which to me is extremely unfair !! She’s also always been very jealous of the life her brother and I created for ourselves owning a home two dogs and baby and treat ourselves …we never rubbed this in her face…she always needs to be centre of attention and the moment we announced we were pregnant all she was concerned about was that her kids wouldn’t get the same attention now …so what did she do out of spite ? Go and get pregnant again with baby 5 and she admitted to a younger sibling that ir was because she didn’t think it was fair we get everything we want and everyone should be prioritising her kids not us and our baby ! I am absolutely furious that she couldn’t even have waited until we had our baby as my partner is the youngest and it’s our first baby! How she has approached the issue and made it openly known her motive was jealousy I find extremely immature and can’t understand why she would allow herself to have another child they can’t afford and expect us all to pay for but can’t comprehend why we won’t contribute and gets pissed at us for saying no!! Anyone ever experienced anything like this and what should I do 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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How annoying that is! Honestly if I were you I’d buy inexpensive gifts for the children but in no way provide for them financially. Especially if she’s going to have a baby out of spite she should be the one to provide for that baby she brought into the world out of jealousy. Don’t let her ruin this special time for you. I’d stand your ground and not provide for someone’s kids when they know they can’t afford them. It’s not your fault they keep having them so you shouldn’t have to pay for it 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Poppy we wouldn’t mind at all if we thought she would give generously back when it’s our little ones turn but she would simply use the excuse “we have five kids we can’t afford it” 🤦‍♀️

She’s got some serious issues. This is not normal behaviour or logical thought process

@Angel right !? She was always spoiled growing up and made the centre of attention so I think this has continued into adulthood …like she can’t bare the thought of anyone else stealing her thunder …just wish she could be happy for her brother as he’s done so so well for himself and built an amazing life instead of acting out with all this jealousy

ah yes have a 5th kid when they can’t afford the 4 they already have 🥲

i would be going to 5 below for the birthday gifts at that point lmao kids don’t care it’s just the parents that do

@Chloe eugh honestly I’m waiting for the kids to be taken off her as well by social services with the way they go on it’s sickening but that’s another issue entirely ! I’m not in a habit of judging people’s parenting but when I say she’s an awful mum ….

Honestly, I would be going no contact with her. That's some childish, toxic bullshit that you should cut out of your life before your baby is born

She chose to have 4 kids and can’t afford them. That’s HER problem and no one else’s

awful i feel so bad for those children

The best thing to do with people like that is give them no reaction and do not feed into their drama. Do what you guys are doing. If she makes shit comments just say I’m sorry you feel that way- it must be tough. Sorry you are not happy This is what we decided to gift Sorry we are not in a position to help you. I hope you find some way to sort it out (end of convo) She sounds like a deeply unhappy person. Don’t let her y happiness wear off on you.’send her negative energy back to her. She is trying to project her own unhappiness and right now it’s working as you are now feeling anger.

i have this with my husbands ex the mother of his kids, she does the same to us 🤢

Just focus on your little family. Keep strong mama...she's just another little speed hump in the road. Just drive over her and carry on to your happy destination!

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