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Partner has matching tattoos and name of ex

How would you guys feel about ur partner of 5 years still having his exs name even a portrait of him & her on his neck and over 5 matching tattoos with the ex where it’s all visible. It’s so irritating that he wants to sit there and get married and have her blasted in all the pictures and reminder everyday that she’s his first wife and you don’t get one tattoo matching or name but she got two arms hands and chest and so did his children and yet he doesn’t plan on getting more tattoos or include us and our kids we have together . He first said he would get them covered never happened then said he would add ours and never happens or turns into a fight so I don’t wanna force anyone to get my name or kids but I also don’t wanna sit there and see her name in every picture we take or just fake head shots because I don’t want memories of her in our pictures let alone her name . Everyone first meats him and they ask who’s that or sick tattoo what does it mean we’ll his ex is wtf it means .

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I mean they’re already on his body. I wouldn’t have gotten to this point if I was bothered by his tattoos

It was talked about and like I said he told me he was getting them covered and then told me removed a year later then said he was adding ours and I understand it took money so now that nothing will be done about it and he expects me to marry him and have her face in my wedding pictures I’m pissed so I said absolutely not. It’s pretty hurtful that instead of being understanding I’m again being made to feel as if it’s nothing and I shouldn’t feel any way about it and my fault when he was the one who said those things without me asking him to till now that’s he’s said all this and has gone back on everything he said . But I guess I have no reason to be upset or hurt . Apparently im wrong for feeling how I feel then

I have a matching tattoo with someone I no longer talk to. Means nothing.

I have several matching tattoos with my ex husband and I have our wedding date tattooed on my wrist with flowers that's pretty big. It would be really hard to cover. I understand how you feel. My ex husband had tats of his ex and older child he had with her but I guess I felt better knowing he also had my nickname tatted on him too. But I heard he got it covered when we divorced. My boyfriend doesn't really mind that I have 3 tats for my ex (the wedding date and then 2 that were matching). My ex has also passed away now so one of them is more of a memorial thing for him now. I guess I don't know. I don't plan to have them covered. I would alter them but not cover them. They are part of my history and my boyfriend knows that.

As someone with a matching tattoo w an ex and then in a new rs, i totally get how it can be super hurtful if it’s something that bothers you and you obviously don’t want to think about that stuff at your wedding, i’m wondering if it’s possible he feels more so regret about the tattoos & not sure how to go about the situation. realistically, getting them covered or removed would be really painful, and maybe he doesn’t wish to add more tattoos right now. I want to get mine covered, but i also am waiting for a time where i am fully ready

I don’t think anyone’s invalidating you. We’re just pointing out that at this point, there is nothing that can be done. I wouldn’t want my man to have my name or our kids just because he has his ex wife there. I also wouldn’t expect a cover up. He can always wear makeup in the photos to cover it up.

If that's how you feel, don't marry him.

He can always get it covered with something else don’t know why he didn’t that’s why I’d never! Tattoo someone’s name on me unless it’s my son or my parents! Or I’d have to be in a 30 year marriage to do so🤣I wouldn’t even get a tattoo with my sons father that’s dead!

my ring finger is tattooed with my ex’s initials before my husband, we all make really stupid choices. unfortunately those are very costly and painful mistakes to cover up or remove. i think your feelings are valid but there has to be a realistic expectation too, i just don’t really know what that is. if it hurts a lot, postpone getting married ☹️

My hubby had an ex name tatted on him. Month 5 of dating I made him get a cover up.

He’ll have to use the wedding $ for a cover up instead and then y’all elope and take a family photo. I mean you knew he had those tattoos before you met him so why are you mad about them now? If he says he regrets them then it’s understandable that he probably doesn’t want any more of people’s name or face which is always a bad idea because you never know what the future holds.

@Karen as a photographer, they sure can:) we usually touch up skin anyway!

I have 3 tats on my body that are from my ex. I've had one covered and it was the most painful experience of my life. My next one I'm thinking about just going really simple on the cover up. We have been separated for almost 5 yrs and I know my bf hates them, but he also knows how expensive and painful it is. He also has a matching tattoo from an ex. I don't care about it though because it's in a different language and we'll I have 2 left so yeah. I want the last 2 tats off me more than anyone, but it doesn't come quick like I want.

I’d be pissed. I understand he has them and the money…. Just say you want them gone before you get married. If he doesn’t want to get rid then it says a lot