Newborn visit after cruise?

My husbands entire side of the family decided to go on a cruise this year over the holiday. The problem is I am due to be induced on 12/27, and the cruise returns 12/31. My husband and I both don’t feel comfortable with my MIL and FIL walking off the cruise and immediately coming to see the baby. They don’t see it this way and think we’re being unfair and trying to keep them a part.

Am I being crazy or too overprotective? Cruises to me seem like a Petri dish on the best of days. How can I articulate this to them in a way they will understand? Help!!!

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Covid proved that cruises are germ filled.

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I agree with you & your hubby . Just tell them if they dont understand it’s your baby’s health over everything

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I agree with you! I’m in the same situation. I’m due the day before they get back from their cruise and we told them they have to hold off for at least a week or two after returning. My husband’s grandmother went on a long cruise a few months ago and got Covid while on the ship, so ever since then I’ve told them my rule. My MIL kinda gets it but my FIL keeps making comments, it’s so annoying but protecting my little one is my number one priority, just like it is yours and I hope your in laws come around to understanding soon!!

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They need to respectfully respect your decision

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That’s not unfair at all and in my opinion a good idea to keep them away. You have your baby’s best interest in mind and if they care about the little one they’ll respect your wishes!

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I would definitely say they needed to be home at least a week. I just had a friend come back from a cruise was fine the first 2 days then sick for a week.

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we said to wait at least a week after traveling before visiting baby - airplanes and cruises are so germy!

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Cruises are full of germs! And it'll be flu season. I feel they should wait 7 days (typical incubation period) after the cruise before they come see you and baby. That's just being safe. And if you do let them come over I would say they need to be masked and they don't get to hold baby.

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100% agree with you and don't let anyone change your mind. We were manipulated into letting people visit we quite frankly didn't want to see and our son got the flu from someone and nearly died at 2 months old. Stand your ground, I wish I did xx

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I would talk to your HV if in the UK mine has given me a leaflet for the area I’m in they advise no visitors for a minimum of 48 hours of being home but they prefer for the baby to have no visitors until after their first visit

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Absolutely not. That's a hill I would die on. Cruises were petri dishes long before COVID but to go on one at the height of COVID/RSV/Flu season over the holidays then expect to see a newborn is asinine. I'd be telling them they can enjoy their vacation and meet their grandchild in a few weeks or delay the cruise, but they're not coming to meet a newborn after s cruise. My SIL took one for her babymoon and came back with COVID after 2 years of never getting it. No thanks!

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100% they should wait at least a week. Even if they don’t get sick they could be carrying something that could hurt a newborn. Personally I think they are the ones being selfish in this scenario.

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Just tell them your doctor advises no international visitors (or recent cruise travellers) for x weeks unless they quarantine for a week and wear masks. Blame the doctor. They won’t call them.

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Nope! I would make them wait 10 days

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