Long story short - baby daddy turned out to be complete deadbeat - I’m
Not close to my own father and he wasn’t a great father growing up. I told him I may name my baby after him (middle name) but honestly in my heart I want to give my child his own identity. I told my dad that and now he hasn’t spoke to me in months or checked in.
Is it wrong to want to name my child something that he can claim as his own identity but that is important and has meaning to me? Or should I give in to people and name him after his grandfather who hasn’t been nice or his father who hasn’t been there??
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Don’t name him after someone who doesn’t deserve it and you don’t necessarily want to be reminded of all the time. I also don’t believe that you have to name the baby after someone. The baby is here to live his own life. Older generations imposed themselves too much on their kids IMO.

I wouldn't do it

Name your child what you want. If you want to name your baby after your dad, you can try to find a name that has a similar meaning to the one your dad has but isn't his name. For example, Bettina comes from Elisabetta, an Italian form of Elizabeth. No, it isn't wrong to give your child a name of his own. Do what feels right to you.

Oh hell nahhhh who gives a duck about useless ass people ☕️

How about you give him dad's name as his middle name?

F*ck these men. Name him something that has no connection to them. Name him after someone that has qualities you want them to aspire to.

Name him your own choice. Im naming mines. Baby daddy gets no say, kids gunna have my last name and all

I avoided family names at all cost with our babies. I don’t get the point and I wanted my kids to have their own identity so he full name was meant just for her as it suited her (registered her after a couple weeks)

I wouldn’t name him after anyone that doesn’t deserve it. My first is named after my adopted father who took me under his wing when I was 19 lol My second isn’t named after anybody. No one has rights to your child’s name ❤️

his dad abandoned me the whole pregnancy and refused to help get baby things when I asked and didn’t check in one time - really don’t feel he deserves it

My husband is a third generation with the same name as his father and grandfather. If we have a son, I told him that I want our son to have his own identity, especially because it’s already confusing at family functions. I just had a daughter 6 months ago and they were disappointed because she couldn’t take on the family name. My husband agrees with me but his family won’t stop pushing. I’m not even pregnant anymore and they talk about it nonstop.

God no, you should only use a name that means something important if you’re naming them after someone in particular. My LO’s middle name is my brothers name who passed away a few years ago at 18 and never got to meet my baby. He was super special to us all and I always wanted to honor him by using him name if we had a boy x
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