He keeps saying he’ll rape me
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Oh no ma’am that is disgusting and you deserve better !
That is not a joke. No man should be comfortable saying those words. I think you should break up with him and never talk to him again.
I’d be showing him where the door is. Rape isn’t something to be joking around with. As much as his saying his joking, I’m sure there is probably some element of seriousness in there.
That is a red flag for sure
Joking?? Any S.A should never ever be a joke.
That could be his kink
Yea no he’s taking advantage of ur trauma. I’ll fight him for u.
Those words shouldn't be coming out his mouth full stop.
WTF. RUN. why are you still with him!? Thats not something to joke about!
I wouldn't be in a relationship with this person. If he's so comfortable joking about it, multiple times, I would be very worried about him actually trying to do it.
Hmmm something dont sit right with making that type of joke to someone who has been assaulted 🙈 It’s also very insensitive of him knowing your past. I’d call him up on it-Make him accountable!
@N A Although CNC is a kink, this isn't in any way okay. If he's into CNC he needs to have a conversation with OP about it, CNC is consentual and he doesn't have OPs consent to say this to her.
Aren’t jokes supposed to be funny? This is just worrying.
😳 I don’t like this at all. I would definitely talk to him.
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Not good enough that is a Big red flag.
Instant red flag and deal breaker for me noooope. That’s not funny at all and not something to joke about 🥴
Run.
Who TF jokes about SA.
It’s too often a joke amongst men and they say it lightheartedly not realising the true meaning behind their words or how difficult it is as a woman to feel the fear of this. I was raped at 8 years old, I told my boyfriend about it, and he has never once taken the subject lighthearted since, sit down and talk to him about this, tell him how it makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s not a joke to you, it’s very real, if he’s any sort of decent bloke he will take your feelings into consideration with something so traumatic and stop immediately. You’d think having this happen to someone close to his heart would be enough for him to never joke about it.
Tell him that makes you uncomfortable and it’s creepy AF
red flag! Rape or any assault is never something to joke about.
I know that what he’s saying is disgusting and vile. But what I’m asking is, is this something that should be talked about and worked through or is this more of an instant breakup? He has shown other red flags of possessiveness over me so yes, I am in the process of leaving. But I wanted to know just solely on this topic, would you have the conversation or would you just leave immediately.
^ it depends on how he is. If he’s naturally aggressive I wouldn’t bring it up and I’d leave. If you’ve had a somewhat normal relationship and he starts making these ‘jokes’ but has never shown any aggressive nature, then I would mention that you don’t find it funny and don’t understand why he would say that. I’m not sure I’d stay with someone who said these things so I think the chat would be pointless for me, but if you plan on working it out then definitely address it.
@Summer He Is naturally aggressive
Then I wouldn’t ask and provoke him for your own safety.
At no point can someone say that and I think it’s a joke. He’s way too comfortable saying something like that
Please get away from him ): don’t have the conversation, it won’t go anywhere but him trying to manipulate you. as someone who was sexually abused by my child’s father, those aren’t just innocent remarks. He will do it one day
If he’s a aggressive at all then that should be enough grounds to leave, no one should have to put up with that
You have to talk about it with him.
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Instant red flag. There is something about survivors that attracts predators. And the fact you have a child is a reason to get away before anything happens.
What the fork kind of joke is that? I hope you understand that a man like that is no man and that there truly are decent people in the world and he is NOT one of them.
Dealbreaker
That is absolutely not something you joke about to anyone let alone someone who has experienced something as horrific as you have It's just very very unsettling and tbh it sounds like he has a twisted fantasy
That's fucked up on every level. What's wrong with him ? Makes me think he's probably raped other people in his life
Get away from him as fast as possible that’s not a f*cking joke it’s not funny he sounds like a douche bag
Is he aware of your past abuse? You’ve spoken about this with him I’m assuming ? Like used the same words you used “very creepy and uncomfortable to hear”?
Instant red flag....no one should make a joke out of that especially when you previously have been