Dirty nappies

Hi all

What are you using to soak/store dirty nappies in during the day?

Thinking we need something dog and smell proof but if you search "nappy pails" your paying £40 for what looks like a fancy bin!

Advice appreciated and links if you got yours online

in our community

MIL coming to our bedroom

Mamas I’d love your thoughts on something. My husband wants more privacy after the baby, but my mother in law is offering a lot of help and coming into our room often to check on me and baby or put the baby in her cot when she falls asleep downstairs and all which I don’t mind as she trying to help?! Husband is not happy at all seeing her coming inside our room saying there should be boundaries as it strictly for us not even family must be allowed inside …. I totally understand what he’s saying but at the same I’ve just given birth nd I’ve got MIL offering to help or knocking to come in am I supposed to say pls don’t come in?! I feel stuck in the middle, not sure how to move forward with this as she’s still with us … pls any advice or suggestion? or do u agree on what am saying ? If I’m wrong fair enough but I feel like I’ve done nothing wrong ? Plus I guess he can speak to his mum? Or? & if anything should the MIL not know this ? if u get what I mean .. also he’s saying when she offered I can say “ let me get my husband” most of the times he’s asleep during the day ? Like okay ….

Sex

Is it just me or does anyone else have major anxiety when it comes to their husband taking care of themselves in that way? I never really had this problem with any other partner but now I get upset thinking he might be doing things alone. He admitted to doing it in the shower while I was 1 week pp and I broke down sobbing. Before having baby I wanted it 24/7 and still kinda do but he didn’t need it as much as I did. I always felt self conscious about it and tried to not be as needy but after having the baby it seems like he wants it more but we have no time to do anything. I feel awful for getting upset when he takes care of himself but I get so anxious and feel not good enough. I tried explaining to him how I felt but it always ends in a fight. I feel defeated and now every time he showers or is away from me I think he’s doing it… help

Step son eating everything

My step son is 13 and for the last few months he's been raiding the cupboards all the time and eating everything. If we buy cookies or anything sweet it will be gone within a day or two and we just find wrappers in his room.
I know its normal for teenage boys but my partner doesn't say anything to him. This morning I found a box of chocolates that I was given for Mother's Day ripped open in his room with half of them gone, I sent a pic to my partner and his response was "already seen that this morning" (but didn't say anything to SS)

Do you let your close family (mom/grandmother/sister) take your child(ren) shopping?

I'm very close with my family, and I do trust them. But everytime I let someone take my 2.5yo shopping I just get this overwhelming anxiety... I just keep imagining someone taking my daughter and I can't get it out of my head... It takes over my whole brain and I can't do anything, I end up having to doom scroll or something to take my mind off it so I can function... I don't know if this is normal or not

My in laws hate me

I had a falling out with my MIl earlier in the week and I’ve now discovered some horrible messages sent from her to my husband following this. Along the lines of that I’m controlling and that I’m from a broken home (I’m not) and that my previous mental health issues (an eating disorder that I’m 8 years recovered from) make me a certain way. She’s warned him to be careful of me. I’m so hurt, upset and angry. I can’t tell him that I’ve seen them but I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together 4 years and coming up to our first wedding anniversary with a 10 month old. The damage is done and I’ll never want anymore to do with them but how can we move forward when it is this broken and damaged. If his family now hate me. I’ve had a really tough week with my baby teething and I just want to walk out the front door and run away

Am I being too sensitive?

It’s my birthday today. My husband reassured me he would let his work know in advance he needed to be working locally so he could be home at a decent time for my birthday. The plan was a day to myself & then go out for dinner with my husband.

He now isn’t due to be home until around 8pm due to working 2.5hrs away. This is all because he didn’t inform work he needed to be home at a reasonable hour, despite me reminding him multiple times this week.

I’m now unable to book my favourite restaurant in case he experiences travel delays (my anxiety means I have to always book just in case). I know this isn’t a huge issue, but I’m pregnant & I’m craving food from this particular restaurant so much (and I’ve had BAD food aversions to a lot of food)!!

I also told him I’m upset because I’m going to be alone all evening. He said I should see my friends, but I don’t have the energy to. My friends also don’t know I’m pregnant yet as we’re waiting until our 12 week scan tomorrow…so being around them would be impossible when I’m feeling rubbish!

I’ve been alone all day (which doesn’t bother me), but being alone basically most of the evening too just makes me feel rubbish. It’s even more annoying because it was completely preventable. My husband has apologised and said he didn’t think working where he was working today was going to cause problems, but I’m just mad he didn’t initially listen and speak to his office out of precaution.

Am I overreacting (maybe from pregnancy hormones lol) or would this annoy you too?