Disrespect porn viewing

My partner lied to me today about going to see his brother just so he can go downstairs in the garage to jerk off! I already knew he wasn’t going it was just how was he going to escape from it! He tells me like 35 mins later while already in the garage he isn’t going anymore… ! Just knowing I’m about to feed your son upstairs disgust me. I confronted him about the lie just to do so and he totally flipped on me start calling me names, how I’m lazy, criticizing me, putting me down! Saying how we’re not going on the boat ride it’s just going to be him and our toddler! At one point He’s like “ohh I don’t even jerk off anymore”! Not knowing I know he’s lying because I saw his history! Since our baby was born 2 years ago we haven’t had sex over 16 months! I am Horny as hell! With baby in our bed we don’t initiate anything! BUT he knows it bothers me when he watches porn without acknowledging my needs as well! And the fact that he’s watching it literally 5 minutes after I put baby down for a nap today or make up a lie to do it which was only twice while I’m in the other room makes me completely upset and somewhat disgusted. I feel like he just doesn’t care about us getting intimate anymore! What do y’all think?

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i feel like you should have a conversation with him about becoming intimate again if it’s obviously something that seems like you both want Honestly 16 months is a long time without something that most people would receive on a consistent basis and him not getting it from you would make majority of other people think he’s getting it from someone else so the fact that he’s choosing to satisfy himself instead of else where is commendable. I don’t really understand the hate for porn and us as women dictating if a man should satisfy himself although i don’t do either personally it’s just i rather my man do that or something else like cheating. Maybe consider transitioning your child into his own room and bed so you guys can have privacy to do the things you all once did before

It’s not that he’s not getting it from me, I’m not getting it from him! I don’t hate porn at all but when it’s chosen over me it’s a little depleting!! I want to transition baby boy I feel like he’s just making it as an excuse to keep him in the bed

I completely understand you on this. I have no problem with porn at all until.. my boyfriend not only started sneaking away to jack off but I woke up to him watching porn and having sex with me one night. I was pissed and it honestly destroyed some of my self confidence and made it hard for me to trust him. Since we've spoke about it everything had gone back to normal and I honestly don't even think he really watches porn at all anymore after how heart broken and unwanted I felt. It really strikes me as weird that your partner is trying to hide it from you like it's wrong especially if he knows your not the one to absolutely flip cause he's watching porn. One thing I will say is my boyfriend never lied to me about it even if I did get upset and I personally think it's wired your partner is hiding it from you it seems very sketch.

Have you tried initiating? I don’t mind porn at all. I work and have school work and house work if I want it i know what to do in the mean time he just takes care of himself.

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