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That’s affective dépendance darling . you can sure leave him , you was not born with him and you won’t die with him . It’s on you to decide if you want to keep being miserable or change your life for the best . We Women always have so much empathy for men when them absolutely don’t care I’am sure if one day of want to leave you he will do it without any problems , think about it . I could never be with a man that doesn’t make my life better , it’s not your job to help him he is a grown ass man he need to get himself together. You don’t have to force yourself to stay of you don’t want you , it’s your life and your happiness. Hope it helps .

* you don’t have to force yourself to stay in that if you don’t want to . It’s your life

Thanks girls appreciate it xx

I had this issue early in my marriage... im going on 14 years now. And I did leave him! We were separated for a year (no children at the time) and he didn't have his green card at the time so he didnt get much work and when he got a job here and there with my dad I had to drive him. Anyways my point is that we got back together and after I realized that a lot of his behavior was because he was depressed. I took it as he didn't care. And im the one that has the mental issues so I didn't think that he was actually depressed. The separation did make us realize a lot about how we were and how we wanted to do better. My advice would to maybe have a serious talk with him about how he feels about where you guys are at in your relationship and how he feels about himself especially. It's very difficult for men to be vulnerable and maybe if he has someone that can maybe speak to him about it instead of you might be helpful too. When I'm in a deep depression it's extremely difficult to do ANYTHING!

Most of the time I barely get by with doing the absolute minimum... even skipping hygiene things... gross I know🤣 but it's a real thing. Just wanted to share a bit of my story with you so maybe something can relate and help you. Just looking at it in a different perspective I guess. I know it's extremely annoying and it's all you focus on but trust me... this is just a season in your life🫶

Sounds annoying.
We are attracted to people with drive and it sounds like he is lacking it while you're growing and moving ahead.
Tell him you want to see him actively doing life.
If he really won't listen and get motivated maybe a break is in order.

hey Jezzie thanks so much for this reply. It’s hopeful 🫶 I suffer too with ADHD and anxiety, so I guess I do completely understand when he has his days. And like I said he has been through a LOT. my frustration is he watches me slave away day in day out knowing how I feel mentally too. On his good days and maybe a bad day for me I wish he would offer a helping hand, you know? How did your husband start to realise?
Even before he was depressed and he’d never experienced issues with MH he was like this you know so I think at the back of my mind I kinda know it’s him as well, if that makes sense x

I just suggested a break because I just can’t do it anymore. Before when it’s happened I get really sad within hours and regret it. But I’m just so over it atm I don’t feel that way.

Girl tell him by

I wouldnt want to one oh man that can’t do the dishes