Am I selfish?

Sending love and strength! Fathers do it all the time and no one bats an eye. I’m sorry you are going through this.

Every mom has moments where they want to escape but what makes us different from men is we suck it up and take care of our kids anyway. Yes it's hard. Yes I have days where I just want to start walking and never stop, but I don't. Don't be a dead beat mom who messes up her kids for life by leaving them. Get a divorce and keep taking care of your kids

ok wow. You didn’t have to come for her like that. She legit said she was arranged into the marriage, which means she didn’t have a choice. Her wanting to leave her kids is not being selfish and not something she can just “suck up”. Her kids would be a reminder of the life she was forced into. She wants to find her own path as an individual, as herself. Not as a mom, not as an ex-wife, just as her! Like the situation is much bigger than just her wanting to get away because she’s overwhelmed.

To the lady that posted this, no my dear you are not selfish in any way, shape or form. I completely understand. I’m so sorry you’re going through this and feeling this way

Whether kids were forced on you or not they ARE YOUR CHILDREN, she could've ran before the marriage, tried to terminate the pregnancies, she had options.

Those kids didn't and don't have a choice, they had no say so in being born. Don't punish them for you not taking your options when you had them.

right! Read the room. Obviously she knows everything that lady just said and she knows people are judgemental. She’s looking for SUPPORT! Not to tell her what she already knows.

any parent who has a child male or female should suck it up and be a parent. There is always a choice to avoid being a parent in the first place but once you are a parent you don't have a choice any longer. That's just a fact. I would say the same thing to anyone who had a child and didn't want them. It's wrong. Either find a way to abort or suck it up and love the children more then yourself .

That's being a mom. Don't sit here and tell her to leave her kids

I'm sorry you feel this way. I remember loving my kids and wanting to run, but my ex-husband was abusive, and I would never have run without them. I have them and peace now.
You're hurting and possibly suffering from depression. It's easy to be depressed when you get stuck in the "what-ifs" of life. Facts are that you are married and you have children, and those kids need you, but they also need you to be happy.
It's just my opinion, but don't run. Find a counselor or therapist who can help you navigate this point in your life. I have a good one. If you want info, please pm me, and I'll be happy to share it with you.
Or pm me and we can talk if you like. I'm not qualified, but I've been through a lot, and I'm happy to help you without judgment or condemnation.

I’m not sure what culture or background she’s from but most countries/cultures I know that do arranged marriages will kill you if try to get an abortion or run before the marriage. So what are her options for real? Go through with the marriage and have kids and be miserable and not know who you are outside of a wife and mother; or get killed and not have a life at all???? Or leave her kids for a while, find herself and come back when she’s ready!?!?!?!?

You are really ignorant and rude. There’s this thing in the world called sympathy. Maybe you should get some

No, it's not selfish to leave a husband that you don't love. Yes, it's extrenly selfish to leave your kids. Get a divorce, counseling and find happiness for yourself but don't abandon your children. They need you. You don't have to abandon your children to find yourself. Good luck and feel free to pm me if you want to discuss further. Message anytime day or night ♡

I could never leave my kids no matter what situation I was put in

your saying if she had ran they would kill her, but now if she runs it fine they wont kill her? Really? I'm not ignorant, it might seem that way because you don't agree with me and that's fine.

However there is no excuse in the world to leave your children, plain and simple. It's wrong and not ok under any circumstance.

Leave your husband…not your kids

leave your husband… not your children mama. they shouldn’t be in the same boat as the husband.

i never would up and leave my child ): no matter what me and their father may go through, it’s not their fault .🥺

If u want to get a divorce then do it but i can never imagine leaving children behind. They'll be wondering y u left and missing you or resenting you. You could do joint custody maybe and then u csn still be yourself and find who you are as a person and be a mom too.

Do it