Lost my wedding ring

After an awful few weeks of morning sickness - every day (sometimes all day) my fingers got slimmer and my ring would slide off. I said to myself I’m going to put it away so that it doesn’t fall off… maybe a week after I ‘lost it’ I noticed it not on my finger and could not remember for the life of time if I’d taken it off and put it somewhere safe or if it had simply fallen off. Anyway, at that point I was so dehydrated, waiting on a blood transfusion and so many other things due my vomiting so I couldn’t look for it then but told my mum too pop around and try and find it. I know my husbands reaction would have been awful and I knew I couldn’t deal with it at that point. We’d been arguing daily anyway at that time because he couldn’t deal with the fact that ‘I was in bed’ and ‘not doing anything.’ Even though he would watch me throw my guts up none stop and I did this while looking after our 8 month old. I don’t even know how I managed to feed him and stuff to be honest looking back. Anyway he noticed recently that I’m not wearing my ring and I told him. He absolutely had a melt down. I mean like screaming at me, he threw things out of my Draws, even broke things. Yes it was around £1200 but it was mine to be upset about and the only reason it went missing is because I wore it 24/7 and obviously was not thinking about it during a really difficult time. Anyway I told him I’d looked everywhere once I felt better, even looked in my mums house and told my sister to check my nieces jewellery box as she likes to take off with things. It’s nowhere. I was upset myself as I did love it but it’s now been 3 days since he’s found out and he’s been an absolute dog. I’m writing this rant only because he just decided to
Rant at me about all my faults and how
Awful and careless and selfish (long list of just negative bs). He keeps saying I’m not bothered but it’s like how do I react in a way to
Show I’m bothered??? Hes acting as if I threw it in the bin knowingly but I literally just don’t remember what happened and I really did turn every part of the house upside down to find it. Anyway he’s just being so unreasonable and really mean. I’m due to
Give birth within a month and my sickness is back, I was throwing up like crazy all night and he’s just there telling me to be quiet and get to the bathroom. I honestly am Lost for Words with this guy and I’m like who did I even marry and bring kids into this world with. - anyway this isn’t helpful to anyone sorry it’s just a long rant.

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I’m sorry for everything going on. I bet it’s difficult having an 8 month old and being 8 months pregnant. I cant imagine. I would try to sit down with him and have an open conversation. Maybe try to do online counseling or something for you guys. I can understand why he’s upset but he definitely should not be getting this angry. Have you gone to the doctor to see if they can help you at all feel better?

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Psshhhh if he’s being like that then maybe losing it was a sign to show you his true colors.

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Ring run not for nothing. Sign

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Losing that ring is a sign. He sounds like an horrible insensitive prick ..

I wish you just leave him and get better. Also can you not having any meds for this .. did you speak to your doctor ?

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Need a good rant SORRY but does anyone else feel like HV's seek joy by trying to make you feel like a bad parent or is it just me!? 🫠

I took my son to the HV drop in clinic to query something about his skin, they weighed him whilst he was there, plotted it on a graph and said that he hasn't put on enough weight and that they want to refer me to a feeding specialist, essentially, what I am doing is not good enough and he's withering away

This is my second breast fed child, and the HV's should know more than anyone that ALL children develop differently!?

He turned 3 months old last week, he is quite clearly happy and healthy and fed on demand whenever the heck he wants some din din

I ALWAYS come away from HV's pissed off for whatever reason

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Time-out method at nursery

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Appropriate age to go out

I am the kind of person who struggles with being at home all day, not good for my mental health. I have a 1 month old and I am trying to start doing things with her. Like going ti the park, running errands. But people seem surprised and kind of judgy that I am out with the baby at her age. Is this wrong?

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First Mother’s Day

I feel like such a bad person for this & I’m not looking for sympathy or anything but yesterday was going so well and than I got really emotional and upset because my partner done everything special he could have done but he didn’t even put a few lines in a card from my baby for my first Mother’s Day card..
He said that because there was lots of writing in the card he didn’t realise that it would have hurt or upset me so bad but it did.. I let it affect me alot more than I feel like it should have but I LOVE sentimental things I love little things like that, meaningful stuff. Especially being my first Mother’s Day that I’ve dreamt of all my life..
There is a big age gap between me and my partner and also he’s Italian so maybe he didn’t realise but I just feel so goddam shit about it. Like I ruined MY day..
I spent the day all on my own with my baby at my mums house instead of with my partner bc of me reacting the way I did and I just felt like I toke it so wrong..
I feel I can’t forgive myself for this and I am the type of person to keep thinking about the situation even if my partner says everything’s okay. I beat myself up about it so badly and in such a low mood for it. Even today and yesterday has passed😞
Maybe this may help getting it off my chest and writing it down but how can I seriously live with myself from this? What can I do better?
I’m such an awful person I know😫😫

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Can anyone offer me reassurance?😪

It's currently 4:35am where we live, I've been up since 2am with my toddler (2years9months) who has vomited 5 times.
I'm not sure what it could be, whether food poisoning or a stomach bug, but he's exhausted and has finally fallen asleep.

I'm just really shaken up and don't think I'll sleep tonight. I'm 37 weeks pregnant, sitting on my birth ball next to his bed just watching him and listening for signs he may be sick.


He woke me up over his baby monitor at 2am, I just heard him coughing and spluttering and thrashing around in his bed, it gave me such a massive fright. I don't mind vomit so much, like physically I'm not someone who's bothered by vomiting and ill happily catch it in my hands, but him being unwell just gives me SO much anxiety, and I'm already a hormonal mess atm.


It's so typical that it happens tonight as my husband has a really important day at work tomorrow. Usually he works from home but he has an important meeting in the office tomorrow that he can't miss. He's been up helping me since 2am but I've told him to go back to sleep now. Now I'm just sitting here full of anxiety. Can anyone reassure me, give advice etc?

He started being sick at 2am, again at around 2.30, 3, 3.30, 4.15. He's just completely conked out asleep he's exhausted. He's refusing water, he took one little sip after the 2nd bout of sickness and just threw up again. I have it here just in case of course. I've had to change the bedding, his clothes twice, my clothes, we have several towels dirty too. I'm so overwhelmed and anxious 😪


And he's been sick before obviously but just never so much in such a short space of time.

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“Bad mum”

I had a Mother’s Day afternoon tea yesterday for myself, my mum and my MIL. MIL arrived and didn’t say anything to me, just walked in and sat down. My mum was fussing over my LG as she usually does whilst I was in and out sorting food, making a bottle, feeding the cat, but she was getting wriggly so I took her and put her on her play mat and when I walked away to get her some toys to play with she whinged a bit so I said “I’m not leaving you, I’m coming back” to which my MIL replied “she is leaving you, she’s a bad mum”. It was probably meant as a joke (maybe) but I’d never say anything like that, even as a joke. Probably being a bit over sensitive but I’m tired and constantly doubting if I even know what I’m doing. It’s bad enough thinking I’m a bad mum every day without somebody literally saying it. I spoke to my partner about it, both at the time and afterwards, and he’s said she was out of order… but not out of order to say anything to her but even if he did, she’d just deny it or say it was a joke. The worst part is she actually has no interest in my LG, she only wants to see her if her friends are round at her house and then she wants me to take baby round for her to show her off, who to me are just strangers. To add insult to injury, after she called me a bad mum, she said that her niece had a baby a month before me, and my LG “will probably catch her up when she’s ready” 🙄 Again, baring in mind, she’s seen my LG 3 times since she was born and she’s nearly 5 months old but has implied that she’s not developing as quickly as the other baby. I know babies develop at their own rate but my LG is rolling, trying to crawl, can sit up with very little support, can bring a spoon from a bowl to her mouth to feed herself (I’ve not given her any food, but we practiced with a spoon to see if she was showing any readiness to start weaning). I think she’s doing really well so I don’t think she needs to “catch up” 🙄
The cherry on top of the day was that we sat down to eat and she felt an appropriate topic to discuss was my partners upcoming colonoscopy and bowel prep 😂
I think the outcome and the 2 hours that she was here is that we won’t be seeing her again anytime soon, and I know that wouldn’t bother her in the slightest, which is quite sad when my LG is her first grandchild and she has no interest in her

That’s my little rant over

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