Second time Mamas. Tell me all about it

Ok so I’ve had a chat with my partner and we are steering towards having another, starting to try the beginning of next year.

Obviously I am scared. What if I find it hard with my active toddler who’s coming up to 2, what If I dont love them as much, what if they don’t love me, what if my first born hates me because of it, what if the sleep deprivation makes it all unbearable what ifs what ifs what ifs… 😂

I’m sure you’ve all had these worries too? So come on guys tell us how hard is it the second time round?

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I haven’t got another baby yet, but are in the same mindset as you! So no advice, but just wanted you to know you’re not alone! X

I have a 4 months old daughter and an almost 2 years old they love each other so much. I have angel babies so this makes is easy but most of the day I do baby wearing my daughter she is a little monkey. The hardest part was the pregnancy while I had a 1 years old and had really bad nausea and vomiting and no family support

@Gemma such a lovely picture, this would make anyone want another it's making me want another now right now haha. X

I’m pregnant with baby no.2 unplanned 🤣 I wanted to wait until my LO was 3 before planning for a second. I’m 22 weeks pregnant and not struggling to keep up with my toddler. I can’t say what it will be like in the third trimester or after birth.

I would just advice to just go for it and regret your decisions later 🤣🤣🤣

In regards to loving your child trust me it’s impossible for you not to feel the same love you have for your first. 🥰

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But im not finished.

You ever been so horny you just want to get off multiple times break a sweat and just get f***ed but then your spouce cums too quick and then the baby starts crying so you just stay pent up? Me too.

Ive had men tell me to "tell them what I want" okay well I told you not to c*m yet and then you c*me quicker. Wtf.

Conceiving after birth (post infertility)

Hi, I’m just looking for some advice, I’m only 20 weeks pregnant atm with my first but we’ve had so many issues conceiving in the first place, it’s taken 6 constant years of trying with not even one positive test until this baby! (No losses thank god)

After a few years of trying with no success we did find out I have an under active thyroid and PCOS and got diagnosed as infertile but now I can’t be happier!

Everything said I know I haven’t gone through the birth yet and I do want to give my body the time to heal but honestly we’ve always wanted a big family and there’s so much anxiety about being able to conceive again.

I know after you give birth you’re most fertile which is great but I just don’t know how long that lasts. I obviously don’t want to get pregnant 6 weeks after I’ve given birth but if that’s the only choice so it doesn’t take 6 years again I would do it :/

Is this a faint line?

I took a test and within 1 minute it showed this. As I wasn’t sure I ended up taking another test 30 minutes later and it was negative. What do you guys think?

How do you feel about this, and could you please explain?

Do you view having children as a positive or negative aspect of your life? Asset or liability?

Evaporation Line?

Hey guys - is this an Evap line or a positive?
This is my first pregnancy so I’m unsure what to expect from a test - all previous cycles have been a stark nothing - I thought I saw a line straight away but this is now after 15mins
10DPO (confirmed with Oura Ring and LH strips)
Thanks x

Heartbroken 9dpo negative!

I’m so heartbroken! Tested at 9dpo and it was clearly negative after trying for 6 months after a loss. Anyone else test negative at 9dpo and ended up pregnant 😭 I’m feeling defeated!