Desperately Needs some advice!!!!!
Ever since I told my boyfriend that I was pregnant he has not been supportive at all!! He would say anything to me just so I won’t can go through with the pregnancy. He has hurt me so much so I ended up getting a temporary restraining order against him so that he can stop blowing up my phone and causing me so much stress. Ever since I got the temporary restraining order, I have been waiting for hours for the police officers to pick up the paperwork so they can serve him but they never showed. I called about 8x already. So he has still never been served the restraining order. He still texts me and calls me. Recently he started to apologize everything that he put me through and how he would like to be there for me throughout my pregnancy. He just came over my house last night to hangout and talk to me. Now that he has finally had a change of heart, what should I do about the restraining order? Should I still have him be served? I feel bad that I took it that far to go and get a restraining order. We have an upcoming court date in October. I don’t want the restraining order to ruin things for especially since now he wants to be apart of all of this.
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Why do you believe he changed so fast?
Nobody just has a change of heart like that. I fear he will try to harm you and the baby.
I believe he changed now because he finally accepted that I’m having this baby and he wants to start coming to my appointments with me. He started to check on me to see how I’m doing and if I need anything. He’s starting to put towards an effort to be there for me now.
so you think I should still go through with the restraining order?
I think it’s best being honest with him and tell him not to threaten or contact you .. just tell him you need time to process what he did.
And you have already had that order rolling. His reaction will tell you a lot !
Honestly, as much as we want people to change and believe they can .. they do not. I cannot imagine why he behaved like that. He probably does not want to be paying child support, you can tell you’ll take full custody of the baby and he won’t have to do that.
yeah you’re absolutely right!! I guess I started to be a bit too forgiving and just forgot about what he put me through.
Did he say why he had a change of heart
I always say when people show their true colors believe them the first time.
I do NOT believe he changed that fast. I don't know him but typical narcissistic traits include being "hot/cold" and lovebombing. Everything seems to be a phase with them.
I would definitely go through with the restraining order. Believe your gut. You filed one for a reason.
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