18 weeks / 4 months baby

Is anyone else really stressed at the moment 😅
I don’t want to sound dramatic but I don’t know if it’s a leap / developmental thing but my baby girl is so not herself!
She is very whiney, crying more often etc.. she has learned a lot like bringing her feet to her mouth, pulling her dummy out and putting it back in.. it might sound silly but I know developmental things can affect them? I just don’t know if I’m alone in this!

It doesn’t help that some people have commented on her being a more “whiney” baby, why is she crying so much lately etc x

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Hi my love. I am a sleep consultant, mother of one and a nurse.

At this age she will be approaching the sleep regression (they go through it at different times) but around 4 month mark. She will start to begin to be more aware of things and sleep may therefore be affecting as her sleep cycles become like ours.

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hi, thank you so much for replying, I will take a look! xx

I’m in the same boat as you, my son is doing the exact same. It hasn’t helped with the weather being so hot this week either. It’s been a long hard week….

Same!! My little one (who doesn’t even like being held) is very clingy the last week or so! And keeps whinging.. it’s so draining to listen to especially when she’s been fed and changed and slept lol! I try and distract her with toys for as long as I can
Also… other people should mind their mouth and not comment on your baby🤦🏻‍♀️like motherhood isn’t stressful enough as it is!

I know!! When you’re so warm yourself, having to comfort them is so much harder 😅 really fell in the hottest part of the year haha xx

oh I’m so glad I’m not alone! But also feel for you too 🥲, that’s exactly how I have felt! Not knowing what is wrong, so it must be developmental related. Exactly, it’s like babies aren’t allowed to cry! Just makes you feel even more tense and doesn’t help at all haha

I let her cry and whinge more when I’m out just to annoy others 😂😂 if I have to suffer then so does everyone else!!

😂😂😂 well if they’re ready to complain about it thennn

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