Newborn will only sleep on me at night

Hi, my newborn will only sleep on me during the night, she won’t sleep in her next to me crib. She’ll sleep in her Moses basket during the day though. Is there anything we can try because she just cries constantly throughout the night unless on me? Thanks

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I cosleep because of this reason, so consider that possibility? There are safe ways to do it! And has many advantages for their development and creating a healthy attachment as well as increasing your milk supply

I used to sleep with my baby on my chest for the first part of the night as he was exactly like yours waking up in his next to me. When he Woolf wake for his first feed I would feed him then put him in the next to me and as he was still sleepy he stayed asleep. He’s now 10 weeks and I would say for the last 4 weeks he has been going down in his next to me from the beginning of the night.

We found that when we put the Moses cot inside the next to me she slept in it, think the next to me cribs are a little big for newborns they like to be snuggly

Most nights he's been sleeping on me(almost 2 week old) because I just can't get him to stay asleep in the bassinet. It should get better as they get older

Try putting the moses basket in your room at night to see if he will sleep in it

Completely normal, my baby would not stay in her crib at all 🫠

I am a peds nurse, sorry to scare you, however, I have taken care of so many babies who have suffered permanent brain damage, asphyxiation, fractured skulls from falling off the bed, and even death from co sleeping. This stuff is real, I would encourage you to continue to work on ways to help babe sleep safely in her bassinet. I know it's hard but bad things do happen, especially with newborns.

Completely normal for newborns to just want to be close to you! Have a look at cosleepy on insta for advice on safe chestsleeping and cosleeping. It’s better to be prepared and cosleep safely rather than falling asleep accidentally with baby on you 😊

Thanks everyone - we brought the Moses basket up and put it inside the crib and she’s slept 😊 x

ah amazing news! We did it until about 2.5 months in the end ☺️ x

I can’t believe the difference instantly! We even had to wake her up to feed after that, and she’s still asleep in there now, I’m going to wake her up again! Thank you ☺️ x

omg that’s amazing news 😍 hopefully you can both get a bit more rest now ❤️ x

Co slept. We used a bed rail pillpw so baby won’t fall. We made sure there are lots of room for the baby.

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There are safe ways to co-sleep / bed share. Don’t let people scare you off of it. The majority of the world co-sleep and the NHS have changed their stance on it in the last 2-3 years or so.
I started bedsharing at 3-4 months old and it’s the best change I made.

They feel safest and happiest when they’re closest to their mums, breastfeeding is easier and we get more sleep as we don’t have to stand up to get to them in the middle of the night.

My lo was like this in the early days we opted for swaddling in the end so I could sleep as she wouldn’t let me put her down! And I fell asleep with her at the boob constantly because of this!

My midwife also gave me a little tip which is used on premies on the nicu, which is to roll a small towel up and the pop it under the legs and up their sides, gives them the feeling they’re being held! This was only used while she was small and couldn’t roll, and the towel was alway small so it didn’t reach past their armpits! I also slept with a Muslim and then put it in her cot spread out like a mattress topper so she could smell me xx

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