Just wanna cry RN!!!!!

Lo is 2.5. Recently all she does during the day is have her toddler tantrums if she don't get her way and then sometime she starts crying so much that you can't control it. She won't calm down even if you tell her nicely or shout because ur fed up of hearing her cry so much. During rhe nights now she cries and cries and doesn't calm down. I can play something on the phone to calm her. I can pick her. Hug her. Give her milk...NOTHING WORKS and then I get so fed up in the night because for 10 whole mins she's not calming down I will shout at her to tell her to stop crying. I'm tireeeed!!!!
WTH DO I DO. Because she's a girl where even the slightest longest cry or even a cry for 2 whole mins she will gag and vomit. I'm now expecting my 2nd and today this LO decided to cry and cry and cry...then vomited. Swear down I actually don't know what the he'll shed crying at??!!!

I even went toilet earlier and said mumma go toilet....she literally had her tantrum.

PLEASE ANY TIPS. HELP. WHAT COULD IT BE!!!!

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It's a hard time developmentally for them, and a really tough time for you with hormones - bad combination! I find I have a lot less patience with my boy now I'm pregnant with my second, but we've got to find it, as shouting is sadly not the answer.

Look up Big Little Feelings on insta, they have a lot of great advice on handling kids this age, and understanding their point of view.

Do you have support at home? This would be a good time for dad to get more involved while you're having to fight hormones too!

Be kind to yourself and to your little, it's a tough phase but it does get better, sending love x

This is really a tough stage for them, for both of you. Could you reach out to your HV to see what support is available?

We have fantastic family centres where we live. Their baby and toddler groups were a great place for support for us.

My LO from the start with each development stage wakes up a few times each night with nightmares as her brain is trying to cope with what she is learning. Then we'll have a break before the next stage. Could your LO be experiencing something similar but all the time? They may be feeling overwhelmed, and they don't know what to do or know the skills to process their feelings at this stage. Xx

I'm going threw the same thing right now. My 2 1/2 year old boy has tantrums all day now for everything . It's so hard sorry I don't have any advice but I'm in the same boat.

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Sleeping, not sleeping and safe sleeping…

I’m a FTM to a beautiful baby boy, who will be 3 weeks old tomorrow but sleep, or lack of sleep in this case, is a source of anguish in our house at the moment and it got me thinking about the information we are given as new mamas.

I get there are rules about safe sleeping to prevent SIDS, and I understand why we have them BUT why is other information that were given on sleeping a little contradictory to this?

1) We are told to nap when baby naps
2) We are told it’s ok if the only way baby will sleep is on us/cuddling us
3) Safe sleeping rules tell us we cannot sleep with baby on us, on a sofa or in a bed

My point is, if the only way baby will sleep is on us, how are we supposed to nap when they nap, if the safe sleeping rules tell us we can’t sleep with baby in bed or on a sofa with us?

If I’m missing something then please someone point it out for me but it seems a bit contradictory and confusing, does it not?

Why?

I am sick of my family telling me there’s something wrong with my baby.

She is almost 10 weeks old. She was born just under 1 month early.

She is my second child, my first born was a chilled baby. She is quite grumpy a lot of the time she does smile daily however. But she’s quite whiny and she has recently been really unsettled / fussy and been having some days where she has really bad crying episodes where she screams. For instance today she’s been fussy all day on her bottle, she did a poo mid way through one - so I stopped and placed her on her mat and noticed it had gone through the top of her nappy on to her sleep suit so I had to undress her and she literally screamed like I’ve never heard before to the point I wanted to cry! I proceeded to try and change her after picking her up to soothe her and again she screamed the place down and started sobbing. She’s quite a gassy baby she is always passing wind and has hiccups all the time also. But I am so sick of my family members telling me “she needs to be checked!” Or my mother saying “what’s wrong with her?” When she comes over and she cries. They said she’s more unsettled than settled always. And I can’t help but think why??? Is it something I’m doing? They are making me question everything and it’s making me feel like I’m heading in to a downward spiral. They make me question myself and my life. I’m just fed up.

Sleepy newborn

Hi all,

Second time mumma here, a bit worried about how much baby is sleeping! She’s 6 days old and vastly different from my first who had a tongue tie and struggled feeding so was awake and alert a lot.

This little one is always asleep, however feeds exceptionally well (formula and breast). Anyone else’s little ones this sleepy and is it normal for this age?

Also she’s so lazy on the boobs but when a bottle comes out she guzzles. Any tips? X

Anyone else's health visitor absolutely useless?

England obviously.

My health visitor is about as useful as a sieve for collecting sand.

Tattoos while breastfeeding…

I’m getting my daughter’s name tattooed on my forearm tomorrow, it’s only small.

I thought today whether it would affect my breastmilk and Google has very mixed messages. She’s 3 months old

What’s your opinion?

Co-sleeping

Why do people make out co sleeping is almost child abuse? My baby is almost 3 months and we sleep in the same bed. It’s the only way he sleeps a decent amount. I have many family members telling me I shouldn’t be doing it. I love the bonding you get sleeping with your baby. What are everyone’s thoughts