Vent

So I just wanted to vent. Plain and simple. Jk not really.
Timeline of my health:
Natural birth in January of 22
C section birth in Nov. Of 22
Gallbladder laproscopy December of 22
Today abdominal hernia surgery

Flashback: when my husband sprained his ankle and could walk. I found him crutches and moved our 2 baby girls, his ass, and all our crap into the new house in May of 23.

Today: abdominal surgery I had to BEG ladies BEG for him to take the day off. He wanted to work and I said no. Who's dropping me off and picking me up? Who's watching and lifting the girls? We had ALREADY discussed weeks prior, then he would be taking today and tomorrow off as well as the weekend because I LITERALLY can't take care of my children. I can barely take care of myself at this point. Anyways today he is upset when I ask for help to the bathroom, he's grumpy when I ask for food, he yells when my daughter had 2 poop accidents today (she's 1 years old almost 2). I'm just so sick of his attitude when all I did is love and smile a d support when he had a small injury rather than MARJOR ABDOMINAL SURGERY. My support system no existent. Really, it's like pulling teeth to get anyone on his side of the family to watch my kids or help me out. I'm becoming angry and resentful. I'm considering moving back home to my toxic family because even though they can be a handful then least, I'd have the support I need. But in order to move home I have to convince my husband. We will have our own place, but it's states away.

Cherry on the cake I was calling babysitter options all day today because his boss KNOWING I HAD SURGERY TODAY scheduled him for work tomorrow. Best part? His boss is his dad. *Mike drop* we are no longer on good terms and it's because of shit like this. I eventually begged enough he called in for tomorrow and said he wouldn't be coming into work. But do I really want a cranky man? I have to walk around eggshells to take care of me? I'm tired. We are depressed. And I'm so sick of it. I asked him to fluff the babies sheets tonight before each girl slept and he flat out said "NO" and I stood there because I can't physically reach the sheets. I'm done yall I'm so upset.

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Mother

The house is quiet.
Finally, a moment to myself.
I sit on the couch, expressing milk for his next feed.
Time circles my mind.
Do I have enough time to write this?
Should I sleep instead?
It’s getting late.
I should be grateful.
I should be present.
I should… I should.
The guilt.
The intrusive thoughts.
The disconnection from self.
The robotic washing of bottles, clothes, and dishes.
Then the question returns.
Do I have enough time for me?
What me?
Who am I?
Where am I?
I miss her.
I miss me.
Who have I become?
I have become a mother.
I am everything to this little human who will one day call me mum.
His life depends on me with every waking moment.
I give.
And I give.
Then he smiles.
And suddenly I see him
the little human I have nourished with tired eyes,
with time,
with love stretched beyond capacity.
Sometimes I leave to rest.
To breathe.
But even then my mind returns home.
I should be there.
I should be caring for my baby.
Is this normal?
Am I normal?
I feel myself unbecoming the woman I once knew so well.
They say this time is sacred.
And it is.
But it goes fast.
Maybe because we are not fully here in these early days.
We are surviving.
Living on autopilot.
Days blur together.
Until suddenly he shows me something new —
a smile,
a look,
a tiny trick he has learned.
And that moment is priceless.
His beautiful smile.
His big, beautiful eyes.
He is beginning his life
as I share mine
to keep him thriving.
A sacred sacrifice.
A whirlwind.
A shift in reality.
Who am I?
I am mother.

Does anyone have a child that’s a bit “different” when it comes to in law’s family? 😅😂

My sister in law is having a conversation with my 4year old and ask what their favorite tv show is and my 4/yo response “stranger things” and absolutely no comment when she said that 😂
She ask what is their favorite food and my 4yo says “spam” their response is “huh? What? “
Then asks what their favorite candy is and my 4y/o responds “no I don’t eat that. It’s not good for you” no response again 😂
I feel like there’s an expectation they have towards my kids
If they ask what their favorite tv show is they’ll expect a “Mickey mouse Minnie Mouse” that type of stuff for ex
Please tell me I’m not the only one and how do yall feel about it?😅😂

Am I wrong for getting upset?

To make a long story short, we were added to a group chat for all the bridesmaids and groomsmen to plan the bachelor party to go to Vegas. So very been boiling about this all day.
I sent one message about finding a babysitter for my kid, and she messaged me privately with a very backhanded comment that I should not discuss anything regarding my son because her husband’s friends do not give a shit ….. as if I am supposed to cater to their interests…. This is my cousin by the way, she only has me, and her sister for family at her wedding the rest are his family and friends.

Am I overthinking this ?

Am I wrong for feeling some kind of way from my husband wanting to put my 2 yo daughter in daycare he always brings it up. But mind you I’m a stay at home mom. And my daughter does learn now she’s not getting no 3-4hr learning session but the thing is she knows all her alphabets, she knows her numbers from 1-20, and she knows a good amount of animals, and she even knows a few sign language that she caught on from Mrs. Rachelle at 1 yo ! She’s very smart and picks up on alot of words pretty fast. But knowing my daughter she doesn’t have a long attention span so I do what I know how she’ll learn best, she learn through music, we watch videos, and I physically show her and question her. But sometimes I feel offended when he brings up she should be in daycare around other kids learning as if I’m not with her everyday .

Husband is happy with only one kid, not me

We had another conversation about it tonight. We had our beautiful daughter 10 months ago, he is very happy to have her and totally in love. But he has personal/financial goals and is happy the way things are. He is looking forward for her to be a bit older and to be able to share more with her.

Me on the other hand am very sad about not having a second baby. I always viewed my life with two kids and am an only child and it seems I would have loved to have a sibling. I know kids don't always get along but me and my husband are both only childs... And I feel it would be great for her to have a sister or brother to share life with.

He says he is 90% sure he only wants one and I keep getting my hopes up on basically nothing... Did anyone go through something similar ? What happened ? And are you happy with your decision to have one more or stop at one ?

Weetabix

How would you serve it to a 6 month old please? Is it boiled water, formula or mix with cows milk?? I don’t trust google and can’t for the life of me remember what I did for my daughter lol