8 month old help!!

So.. my lo started nursery last week, he is 8 months old. He did 1 session of 4 hours and the next day we was called to pick him up after an hour as he was unsettled. The nursery have told me he is wanting his milk far too soon when starting and he seems very tired for a baby his age.
He gets up at 7-7:30
He naps around 9-9:30 for around 40 minutes.
He then naps at around 2 for another 40 minutes
Bedtime is 7:30
He has around 3x 7oz a day minimum and has food. He is also waking 2/3 times a night

Please tell me what I’m doing wrong?

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You're not doing anything wrong! All babies are different so they shouldn't be commenting on a hat is right 'at his age' he's 8months old!! The same for food if he's hungry he's hungry.

Did you say to the nursery he has to have naps/food at certain times? If so it may be worth giving some flexibility while he settles and if not then they should know to be flexible!!

Hey!

I’m Mel a gentle and holistic sleep coach. To me this sounds all VERY normal at this age.

My main question is does your little boy seem happy. If yes then that’s your answer he is absolutely fine.

Nursery is a huge change for our little ones and takes time to settle. My little boy would only take very short naps for quite a while at nursery on these days just put him to bed a bit earlier.

I don’t agree with what your nursery is saying. So please don’t worry!!

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My boy started at his childminders this week at 8 months old and she said that his routine has basically been nothing like what I said he does at home but she expected this as its massive changes and also mega hot! At home he has 2 bottles between breakfast and bed and one day he had 4 and another day he had a 2 hour nap in the morning! She's just letting me know how he's doing and letting him get used to going there and getting himself into a routine with it. I personally wouldn't be happy with her saying he was hungry too early as when he wants food he wants food 🤷‍♀️

I worked in a nursery baby room for 6 years before having my first child in 2019.
Your routine seems perfectly normal for a baby his age and would have easily fitted into our nursery routine. Although nurseries should keep a baby's home routine too especially when settling.
It is normal for babies to get extra tired at nursery especially in this heat. But they may also fight the naps more or get woken up earlier by the noise.
He may want milk earlier than they expect due to comfort or if he sees another baby having some. They should be flexible.
Some children take a long time to settle. They can get more unsettled after the first session as they realise they are going to be separated from you for a long time. I hope the nursery can work with you to help your LO settle.

Awe I’m so sorry to hear this, the nursery should be reassuring you ❤️
It doesn’t sound right what they are saying… my sons started nursery the past 2 months and while he’s not taking his milk, he’s eating the food they give him, and he naps loads there. They just go off whatever he wants to do, and they keep me updated with it all. They would ring me if he was really upset but he’s definitely arrived upset a few times but were happy to take him off my hands and cuddle him etc. Your little ones routine sounds normal and very similar to my sons but he can sometimes sleep more… I can’t understand why they would make those sort of comments, babies sleep and feed when they need ❤️

the nursery schedule seems a little off. Arrive at 9
Snack at 9:30 and nap for younger ones
11:30 lunch
12 nap
2 wake up
2:30 home

Does this sound ok? I thought this is far too much sleep but maybe they just can’t be bothered with my lo as he doesn’t sleep as much?

It had all started as he was crying for an hour on the second day of nursery, they said they couldn’t calm him and to collect him asap. It is so hot, he has just had 2 teeth come through and it’s a change for him so yes he’s been slightly off but otherwise he is a happy little chap. The way they are saying things just make me feel like I’m doing a bad job

thank you 🙏 they seem to expect every baby to follow the same routine and I have told them that a strict routine does not work for him as he is very much on demand. He wakes at 7:30 and we are in the car at 8:30 going to nursery. It is more often that he will not want a bottle straight after waiting hencw why he is wanting it when he gets there. What they say make me feel like I’m doing such a bad job and I’m not feeding or giving my little one enough of anything

That routine seems very strict! Especially for a baby room in a nursery. My LG wouldn't follow that routine.

I would definitely try to sit down with the nursery and say is there a way we can work together to improve it.

When I worked in a nursery at no point did we ever have every baby asleep at once!! It's different when older as meals are served at same time but that's when they're over 1 years old but even then flexibility should be happening

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