Just need some advice pls

So I'm currently pregnant with possibly our last baby (3rd).

So this is more about the name. My husband was the one who thought of our eldest child's unique name and at first I wasn't really 100% into it but later on, I caved in and so we named him what he wanted. 2nd kid, it was more of a common name so there weren't any issues. Although my husband thought we'll finally have a girl (in which he already have another unique name set on his mind) for it and ended up having another boy so it didn't happen. Now with this 3rd one, finally a girl, he was so set in stone with that name he already wanted since the beginning. At first, again, I'm not 100% into that name knowing she might get bullied but I somehow just kinda went with it. But a week ago, a random baby girl name appeared in my dream. It's not as common as I think of, but still think it's more acceptable name than what he wanted. I discussed about it to him but he refused and said he's already decided and it'll never change. His family also trying to convince me to not agree to that name their son was wanting.

So after the discussion with my husband about it, I've been just feeling disappointed. I know that name didn't just showed up in my dream for no reason. And I explained to him that "she" might be the one who wanted that name. But it's still a no for him. I feel sad now. I don't know what to do. I feel like with this happening, I feel upset with him secretly. (Maybe it's just the hormones) I feel that since he's now the breadwinner of our family, like I don't have any say with our daughter to be's name as he already made his decision.

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I mean why does he get the final say? The child is both of yours not his. Personally I wouldnt name a child anything unless both parents like it. I'd kindly remind him he got final say for your first born so he should be more willing to compromise with this one.

Heres the thing... technically, you dont even have to list him on the birth certificate. You push the baby out, you name the baby. That's my feeling. With our daughter, I was fortunate that the name I'd always loved my husband happened to really like too. But with our current, we just got confirmation that it's a boy. My husband is named after his grandpa and wants to name our child after his dad because its carrying on that skip line. BUT... he loves being named after his grandpa because he feels it's a name to live up to and be a goos person because of. And his dad, though I love him as my FIL, is really not the best role model. Like at all. And I cant in good conscience name my child that and call him that everyday without feeling ick. It's going to be a huge battle I know, but I really need to hold my ground on this one.

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The other issue is... like you i have a name that is really just set with me that i want for this child and since I got pregnant it has been the name in my mind and no others. So I have to figure out how to convince my husband to like it after I totally shoot down his choice.

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What are the names? Maybe you should work the angle that he got to pick the first name so its only fair you get to pick this one.

You don’t pay for a name unless you’re changing it from an existing legal name so his being the breadwinner means absolutely nothing here.

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