Thinking about having another baby

Man sometimes I feel like a single mom, since he doesn't really help the majority of the time. Like I get he wasn't raised in the best family, but either was I. I was literally raised by my grandparents while he had both parents. I told him that I might consider having a second one but obviously a little later (about 2 years later) since she's barely going to be 3 months. He literally gave me a look like nope no more. I mean he should be happy I went from wanting 4 to a maximum of 2.

Maybe he doesn’t know what to do but teach him which you shouldn’t have to but omgggg yesss be thankful bc another one won’t hurt nd y’all are gone want more down the line but if you only talking about 2 years from now wanting a another that’s super cool 😎 Omgg why us women could not be the daddies 😂😂 bc ik we would have work they world nd show them how cool a dad can be with lil ones

@Jessica

@angel He knows what to do, he just finds excuses to not do it. Such as diaper changes, bathing her, dressing her, holding her, etc. For holding he says he doesn't hold her cause he doesn't want her to make it into a habit. I mean he did grow up in an environment where baby holding is a thing they don't do, because they get "spoiled". He wasn't even there during the labor. I mean he was but right when it was during the tough contractions he wasn't being supportive. His mom had to keep telling him hold her hand, or do this do that. When it was pushing time he left so his mom and my sister stayed. I really wanted him to be there but he didn't. I obviously got my sister to cut her umbilical cord since he wasn't there, and she wanted to do it. He obviously got upset but I wasn't in the right stated of mind to see where he was at. I mean I had the whole labor with no epidural and pain medications. Which the doctor and nurse said was really good for my first baby.

@Jessica omg you had her natural that’s wonderful but the hell holding babies do get them spoil but this is the first nd only baby we have so why not spoil her lil self lol but he can do more !!! You right he just making excuses bc ain’t anything wrong me bathing her , changing her are even holding her for a good 15 minutes get it together sir but at least he was there bc my bd ft me after I had the baby and want say ohh he to light skin 🙄🙄 I could have beat him Thur the phone if it’s was possible bc the baby look just like him but also like me

But girl I didn’t hear anything from my bd till my baby was like 8/9 months wen i finally got me stupid ass up to go put him on child support due to me just having my baby in April of 2021 and me going straight to way may 2021

Yeah like for the diaper changes I tell him can you get me a diaper and wipes and wait a good while until I go get them myself. For bathing I tell him that he should be involved now since he won't be able to when she gets older. Same thing with holding her he better take advantage now because she will grow quickly and there will be a time when she won't be able to be held and carried. He's literally done skin to skin twice since she was born. Aww he's so cute 🥰

@Jessica omg she beautiful and look at her lil lips poking out 🥰🥰 congrats on your wonderful blessing

I know that the reason she wants me to hold her is because I'm her safe space. I'll always hold her no matter what and spoil her with love and affection. Give her the motherly love I didn't get growing up. It wasn't too bad during birth until the last hour contractions.

@Jessica definitely need to take advantage now bc 9 months she ain’t gone want to be held lol she gone crawl nd maybe even try to walk

Thank you 🥰 I honestly had lost hope of having one until I found out I was pregnant on my trip with my family, after telling my sister the day before that if I ever got pregnant she'd have to do all the party planning. Then found out at the dr that I was 8 weeks.

She's already trying to stand when I hold her and even tries to walk. She's already taken 3 steps while being held.

@Jessica I definitely understand bc I still do skin to skin nd everything with my son bc I never Md still don’t get motherly love from the lady that gave me life !’

@Jessica you will have another one wen the time is right

@Angel yeah even though my dad was more in my life he didn't treat me very nice. So I want my baby to have a better life and childhood than I did. I give her tons of kisses, hugs, and hold her as much as she wants.

@Angel hopefully she was born a month after I turned 28