So my loving husband went to a strip club
Let me start by saying we are best friends, he's a hands on dad and can't do enough for us as a family. But before a lads night out I specifically told him that whilst going to a strip club is usually reserved for special occasions, it would break my heart if you went off the cuff this night (I know over the years its happened like this at times although we made a rule he wouldn't go like this) . He knows I feel so alien and gross in my body. We also haven't been up to any adult cuddles as I'm uncomfortable. I said I feel very vulnerable at the moment and this would make me so insecure. Anyway he went and tried to lie about it. He's admitted it now but of course I feel like I can't trust what exactly happened. His version is they wanted to keep drinking and it was the only place open. But I can see a miss call on his phone in the early hours so clearly someone went missing for a lap dance or worse and now I just don't trust what he is saying. What do I do? I feel like I can't walk around with my body out, I feel so horrible in myself. I'm angry that he's made me so upset while I'm pregnant. Iv been trying to keep calm because it's not good for the baby I know. But the lying and the going and doing god knows what. I know he loves me, he treats me so well usually. Please give me your advice. I can't leave the home, we have our toddler. I just can't bare seeing his face at the moment.
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My husband wouldn’t dare go to a strip club because it’s disrespectful and I would kick off completely however, if I was you, keep in your mind as soon as your baby is here you can work on yourself to feel more confident and happy.
Remember you are carrying his baby so in his mind you’ll be a lot more to him than some stripper.
Don’t let this ruin the upcoming special weeks 👶 💕
I’m going to give the other side here just to help you rationalise (I’m terrible at this especially when pregnant). It could be really simple- group of lads… he’s the only one not keen… they all take the mick… he gives in but just sits there and drinks. I know of people in the industry and they don’t throw themselves at men unless they’re getting money from it. I absolutely appreciate the insecurity right now, but if you’ve never had a reason to doubt then there’s a high chance there is genuinely nothing to it. Sending you love and positive vibes regardless x
My husband has gone to a strip bar genuinely because it was the only place still open and I believe him because I know what he is like but I did question it at first. I'd still be pretty upset if we had a previous agreement and he had broken it. He has some making up to do and you deserve some pampering.
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