Toddler prefers MIL and I can't help feel jealous

My son does this with almost everyone that spends any time with him, especially now that I’ve got a newborn. I really don’t mind as it’s good for him to form these bonds with his family. He does it with MIL, he’ll ask for her and she lets him get away with things I wouldn’t allow, she’ll always give a snide comment about he doesn’t even care that I’m there or that he was happy without me and didn’t ask for me, or that he’s just a lost kid now that I’ve just given birth to my second 🤨 Again wouldn’t mind him “preferring” her but these comments piss me right off 😅 but for now I’m just trying to ignore it and not show that it bothers me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Honestly you shouldn’t take it to heart. I’m sure if it was your mother your LO was running to you wouldn’t mind as much. She’s a grandma and grandparents love it when their grandchildren want them. You’ll be a grandma one day and you’ll know the feeling 😌😊 I have a 20 month old cousin. And my aunt brings him to my mums house multiple times a week and sometimes he stays the whole day when she has to work or do other things. My cousin looooves my mum and runs to her for everything. It’s normal because he’s not with her everyday and she doesn’t say no to him lol. She even says “oooo you live your aunty the most” and my aunt doesn’t get bothered and neither does her husband. They actually like that their child is loved so much and cared for. Just take it as an advantage that your children are loved so much. Sometimes in laws hate their grandchildren, my grad parents (on my dads side) especially grandma, never gave me love my mums parents loved me more and I wish they did the same💁🏻‍♀️

I can relate! My mil comes to visit here and there and we don’t have the best relationship. Can’t stand her but my son loves her and it hurts alottt. He also does the same with my sister when she comes to visit and even that hurts because I feel like I do so much for him, have sacrificed so much and he chooses them over me.

Toddlers are jerks babe. It's a phase

Take it as a compliment you raised her well and she feels so strong in her attachment to you that she can make new attachments and knows you will take her right back even after the rejection. I never felt as comfy around extended family and it is partially because I didn't have a secure attachment with my parents.

Also very hard though and I would have the same feelings , but this perspective will help me i hope lol my MIL lives across the street 😭im sure by the time she's 3 she will more actively be wanting to go over there without me.

I get it ❤️ I had to settle in my heart long ago that our children will always prefer someone else in most situations. Keep in mind, we’re familiar. We’re there day in and day out, so anyone outside of their norm they see as a ‘special visitor’ so it’s exciting to them. Plus we’re the ones that tell them no, discipline them when needed, and handle all the not so fun moments as a parent rather than a friend/grandparent 😅 But at the end of the day, when they need someone to lean on we’re the ones they come to because they know we’ll always be there ❤️ I honestly love that we get to be the dependable ones over the favorite ones, I actually think it shows we’re doing something right 💕 And it really is so good for them to develop those bonds with others!

My son does this with pretty much anyone who comes over. If it's just us home I get the hugs and kisses but even if my husband is home I'm a second thought. As moms, we are their given, they know we aren't going anywhere so other people are more exciting at this stage.

My mil wanted that type of relationship with my kids as they’re her first grandkids but naturally the children are closer with my parents as we live with them. She soon stopped when I left both the kids with her on weekends that I was working 😂