Previous birth, anxiety with second birth

Hey, I'm being induced next Thursday and I'm getting very anxious. Not so much about Labour more about pushing baby out due to previous birth Trauma. I was fine up until the last few weeks because it's all getting so real now. I had a PPH (post partum Hemoragging), shoulder dystocia and my baby being 10,3. I lost a lot of blood and went straight into surgery after having him. Has any one experienced this or had birth trauma then had a second and felt this way before their birth?Just need ways of getting into a good headspace and feeling positive

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It's worth asking if your hospital has a women's health psychologist. They're specifically trained in helping with anxiety in pregnancy and surrounding previous deliveries.
The good news is those things are unlikely to happen again.
You should be screened for diabetes this time round having had a baby over 10lb before and could ask for a growth scan at 36 weeks to see what baby's growth is like if you'd consider an elective section if it was predicted to be big (although scans aren't 100% accurate but they're all we have!).
Good luck lovely, hope you feel better soon. Xx

I had a pph with my second and was anxious about having my third but had a normal delivery with her. I had done lots of hypnobirthing and yoga to help me prepare for it and had a beautiful birth with my last one. But I spent a lot of time preparing for it.

We had plans in place for a bleed this time but they weren't needed.

Hi hon. You could possibly now suffer with secondary Tokophobia.
The fear of pregnancy or giving birth due to trauma of a previous birth.

I suffered with both Tokophobia and secondary Tokophobia.
So badly that I now help other women to overcome their Tokophobia. I also created a group here on peanut named Tokophobia.

Basically, your subconscious mind clearly remembers the birth trauma and causes you severe anxiety as a warning to you to not go there again. The subconscious mind now sess it as DANGER to you and you subconscious will always protect you from any danger.
The subconscious is there first to help you survive and second to help you thrive.

So your mind is throwing out warning signs, the anxiety symptoms, to prevent you from danger / 'not surviving'.

As a Hypnotherapist, I work only with the subconscious and get your mind to understand that even through the previous birth was traumatic, you still survived it, and you will again and that there is no need for the subconscious to try and protect you from giving birth. That you will be OK.
Once the subconscious understands it, the anxiety and fear will go away.

It is usually only 1 session, but sometimes needs 2, maybe 3 at most, sessions to help the subconscious makes sense of it all.

Feel free to check out my website or message me if you'd like to to help you or book a free consultation to chat about it.

I work online, so you can be in the comfort of your own home while doing the session.

Rewind Your Mind. Co. Uk

All the best for your new little bundle coming soon!

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