Don’t trust husband alone with my son
My husband is a great dad except for one thing we disagree on. I believe that you can’t hold a baby too much and he thinks I’m spoiling him / holding him too much. I’ve also seen him get very frustrated when my son cries too much (he’s 9 weeks old) he would never hurt him but he will put him down and walk away and just let him cry and it breaks my heart. Because of this I don’t feel comfortable leaving the baby alone with him except for very short amount of time. I do love my husband I’m just wanting to know if anyone else feels this way about their so or family?
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My husband was very old school too about letting the baby cry but he just needed to be informed. He’s too little to be intolerant and harsh. Communicate with him, tell him your concerns and how you want your baby to be treated. Now my husband is gentle with my daughter and gives her more attention now
I have a degree in psychology, and one thing that I learned in developmental psychology is that if a baby is crying within the first 3 months of their lives, it’s always best to show them attention. This is when they begin to learn that they can count on their parents when they need something and it’s a crucial stage for them to build a bond and develop trust with their parents. If a baby is left to cry by themselves in this period of time, they can end up with behavioral issues later in life where they still won’t trust authority figures and most importantly, their parents. After 3 months, we learned that you can start to let them cry for a bit if nothing is wrong, because the trust will have been built.
funny thing is both my husband and I are psyc majors😅
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