Never met his side of family

My boyfriend hasn’t told his mother that I exist or that I’m even pregnant. He said he is going to tell her at my next ultrasound. He says that he’s a private person and that he doesn’t like his family in his business because they are nosy. I know this is a big red flag but how much longer do I put up with it?

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I went through a similar situation. I guess it depends on how far along you are & if the relationship is new. If you guys haven’t been together for a while then that could be a reason why (not excusing him). I didn’t want to be pushy so I never bugged my bf about it but eventually he told them. If it’s bothering you though definitely bring it up. If your anything past 6 months then it’s a big red flag

I personally won’t trust someone who won’t take me home to meet their parents when we were dating but everyone’s different. You must love him lots

Delusion at its finest

I’m 16 weeks and we have been together for over a year and a half

Definitely have a conversation with him and let him know that it’s bothering you. I can somewhat understand what he’s saying because I didn’t tell my dad about my boyfriend (now my child’s father) until I found out I was pregnant due to his reaction about finding out about my ex boyfriend. I’m also a very private person as well I still don’t post my boyfriend on any of my social media platforms lol I’m sure he will tell them eventually but if he’s never told them about you both dating telling them your pregnant could really be a shocker. Ask him when does he plan on doing so or better yet give him a time limit.

thank you! I’ll definitely talk to him asap

How long have you guys been together? Are you living together? It’s ultimately up to you to decide how long you want to wait for him to step up. Especially because your pregnant, he should be on the phone with them like now telling them. Honestly, don’t wait too long. I don’t buy him not telling his friends and family about you because he’s a “private person”

Maybe he is independent and not close to his family.

My husband was the same way we were together 6 years, married, and I was pregnant before I met his family. After I met them he opened up a lot about his childhood and things and I get why it took so long. Now we’re there all the time because they want to see the baby which I could go without lol

A year and a half and they don’t even know you’re together? That sounds very strange to me. Is he not close? Do they live far away?

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Hidden veg mince pasty 🥐

Grated courgette and carrot mixed in with onion and mince and a little bit of tomato puree. 😋

My daughter has become a little fussy and prefers anything she can hold so made these today for lunch! She’s 14 months old 🩷

Appropriate age to go out

I am the kind of person who struggles with being at home all day, not good for my mental health. I have a 1 month old and I am trying to start doing things with her. Like going ti the park, running errands. But people seem surprised and kind of judgy that I am out with the baby at her age. Is this wrong?

Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Roles between a sthm and a working partner?

I started wondering if our arrangement makes any sense. When I was pregnant I saw a cute video of a couple where they sleep seperately, the mom takes care of the baby during the night, the husband wakes up early in the morning takes over so the woman sleeps a bit before he gets to work I suggest this arrangement to my husband and we both liked it. Since I gave birth to my 22 month old boy, we are sleeping separately, I’m taking care of everything. My toddler still wakes up during the night every two hours on average. I wake up in the morning to make his breakfast and drive him to the train station and pick him up later in the day. I clean and cook and take care of my boy, with no appreciation or thank you. If I say I’m tired it turns he’d say what are you doing all day or he’d remind me of how he’s paying for everything. I am emotionally and physically exhausted and I don’t feel this is how a team should work.

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Sending my baby to nursery

My daughter is just shy of 6 months old and I'm already feeling horrendously guilty about putting her in childcare for 5 days a week (2 days nursery, 3 at a childminder 8am to 4/5pm) when she's just over 13 months!

Right now, she goes to bed by latest half 7 so I really don't know how I'm going to handle going from being with her 24/7 to only seeing her for max. 2.5hours a day!

Does anyone else feel like this? Does it get any easier? If it wasn't for how expensive everything is nowadays, I'd be a SAHM in a heartbeat!