Overwhelmed

Hey mamas
So I’m super overwhelmed with my lil one. She’s 4 months old and refuses to sleep bed or naps for more then an hour or two and it’s super frustrating. My fiancé and I don’t live together and he works full time so he’s not around much right now so it’s mainly me. Any tips on how to get her to sleep for longer stretches?

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For my little girl she’s almost 3 months old and right before a nap or bed time I give her an ounce more of her formula and she sleeps for a good amount of time! Is she swaddled or anything?

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No she dosnt like the swaddle and I always feed her before bed and naps but she falls asleep and just doesn’t stay asleep. She gets more formula before bed usually 4-6 oz sometimes 7 all depends on how much she wants to eat.

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Maybe try to release the gas or burp her if she’s cranky. I know it could be frustrating but I’ve watched a lot of videos on how to settle down the babies around my LO age and it all seemed to work so far lol

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I burp her after every feed she just wants to be close to me which I understand but I don’t want to co sleep with her. We share a room and I’ll have to watch some videos and see

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Hi Mama! We let our little guy sleep on his tummy. This is the only way we can get some sleep! We only give him a light blanket that covers his bottom & feet up. He's so gassy, this seems to do the trick. Sometimes, we have to roll up a blanket to act as our arm when laying him on his tummy.

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I still have to rock my daughter to sleep at night (bedtime 830/9 and she sleeps until about 7/730). Is the room hot/cold? Is baby dressed for the temperature? What is she sleeping on? Any noise (tv, white noise, lullabies)?

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it’s usually 70 in my room it’s not to hot or cold and she sleeps in just some feet light weight pajamas . She sleeps in her crib on a mattress and I play soft country very low or I do ocean sounds. She was sleep in really well from like 8/9 to about 5-6 now she’s all over the place. Like tonight she went down around 9 was up at 11 and then again at about 1 and now again at 4.

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At 4 months, they have the sleep regression thing, so this too shall pass!
I have read that it is developmentally appropriate for 4 months old to nap for 30 min. So your baby is just being a normal baby.
I know I'm not providing any positive news or tricks, but what I'm saying is there is light at the end of the tunnel, and there is nothing concerning with your baby.

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I know the naps are only short but she doesn’t even nap for more then like 10 mins and she dosnt sleep at night more then an hour or two

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oh that sounds like sleep regression 🥴 unfortunately we all will go through that a some point/stage. The only thing you really can do is try to be patient and know that it is only temporary.

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@Carolyn try plain white noise. I have heard that ocean waves, rain sounds and music don't allow your brain to rest because it is looking for the patterns.

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I’ll try it

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