Husband and newborn
My husband has been back to work for 2 weeks now. My baby will be 4 weeks on Monday. I’m struggling to get him to pull his weight with the baby and around the house when he gets home. He doesn’t usually get up with the baby and I’m left to do it alone and his reasoning is that he has to get up for work. I always say that taking care of a newborn by myself is a full time job too and I’m doing the day shift and night shift. He will hold the baby and take care of him in the evenings but as soon as the baby starts to cry he asks me “what does that cry mean?” so I’m still doing most of the mental work of taking care of him. I love the newborn phase so much and I’m so obsessed with my baby but I need a break or even just some help sometimes. I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he’s very defensive
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How about you tell him what to do with the baby when they start crying instead of taking the baby from him. Maybe the small steps will help in his journey to being present on the baby duties
he will take care of the baby and knows what to do. He just doesn’t do the work of figuring out what’s wrong
sounds like he just needs the trial and error of figuring out what babe needs just like you did/do. that’s the only way he will learn for himself and not just ask you for what baby needs
Dont overwork yourself, take care
Of baby and if you have a chance take care of the house. If you dont have time for the house stuff then when he gets home and there’s nothing done he will pick up the slack. How mens brain works is if they see everything done then you got it and dont need help
the dishes haven’t been cleaned all week because I haven’t had time and he hasn’t touched them. It’s getting frustrating because to him I just get to stay home from work all day. I’m going to try to leave for a little while tomorrow so he sees that taking care of our baby is a full time job
Hope that works 🤞🏻🤞🏻
It seems like he is deliberately leaning on you because he doesn’t want to do his fair share 😔 make sure you communicate with him how you’re feeling. Leaving and letting him experience how hard it can be is a great idea.
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