Hold it together

I've placed mine in her crib and walked away for a bit/let her cry it out a few times when I've been to touched out/can't seem to calm her and I've tried all the usual things that help her. Walking away and making sure she's in a safe area is sometimes the best thing I can do for her when I'm too overwhelmed and don't have help to take over

this!!! Sometimes you’ve got to

I'm not holding it together.
I'm 40, my 12 month old still wakes between 2-8 times/night, and I have a wild 3 year old.
I'm tired. I'm overstimulated. I'm touched out.
Thank God for therapy.

Sometimes you really do just have to let them cry it out. They arent gonna cry blood, arent gonna get hurt, just sometimes mom getting a 10-15 minite break where baby is safe in their crib just having a cry , maybe with a bottle or paci or stuffed animal is veryyy important and helpful. You gotta get you in the right calm mind set to care for that little baby so they dont sense your stress. Breathe, let him cry, drink some water, open a window...you got this.

Barely holding it together here! New mom with a 6w old and this is way harder than I thought it would be. How little were your babies when you started to let them cry it out? Sometimes I feel like I may need to try that but I’m afraid she’s too little.

@Helenn there were many times around that age that I did have to place mine in the crib and do a lap around the outside of the house before I felt well enough to go back inside to try to calm her again. If you've tried all the things including taking them outside, and nothing is working, the only thing I could do to help my mental health was place her in a safe area (crib) and take a short walk to clear my head so I'd be ready to try again. I'd give myself anywhere between 5-15 minutes and sometimes she'd still be crying when I'd walk back inside and other times she'd have finally fallen asleep. As long as they're safe, fed, clean diaper, etc, and it isn't comfort from you they're looking for, don't feel guilty walking away for a bit to help clear your mind so you're able to care for them better.

Routines saved me. I know that showers save my mental health.. so from the age of newborn, it put her in the little momma roo thing facing my glass shower and she would watch me shower. Every single morning. She got used to it. Even if it was just 3 minutes. It saved my life. Also, cosleeping. So getting a full nights sleep and at least one shower a day saved me

Same thing going on with mine, I feel like I am going crazy 😭