Just a vent !

Sorry about the incoming but im so frustrated and p**sed off at the "oh just wait" or "oh your only *insert weeks here".
Im 24 weeks, i am sore and uncomfortable - i was small before, so the extra weight is hard on my body and hips. Babies sitting really really low and isn't showing any signs of moving 😂 hes kicking me like a footballer..
I just want to express my discomfort without being met with the "oh but it will get worse, wait till your 30 weeks" etc etc.
Store your sleep now - well given im not sleeping anyway what does that even mean 😅
Ive also voiced that id rather not have a section or an epidural, of course im fully aware if i NEED one or babies in distress then absolutely ill do what needs done for my son to get gere safe, but why are were we met with so much criticism about not wanting these things if we have that choice - yes i may get to labour and change my mine so bloody what ! It happens.. ugh im so sick of everyone having an opinion on my body and pregnancy 😒

Sorry haha needed to vent in a safe space !
Anyone else experiencing this ?

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Yes!! I'm the opposite and starting to consider elected c section.... but according to the 'experts' its the worst possible decision I could make!
When I was exhausted in 1st trim, my mum told me it couldn't be the pregnancy making me tired because she was never tired at that stage 😅

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100% it’s the worst.

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@Elicia honestly its your choice, everyone is so different..like the thought of a section just sends me into anxiety overdrive but if you want one then you know yourself best !
To many opinions i think, we just need to trust ourselves xx

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Yeah very true! It feels like such a huge decision to make doesn't it!

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I’m so done with the unsolicited comments and ‘advice’ from the minute people find out. Everyone feels the need to invalidate or downplay what’s going on and it’s so shitty to do, like can we not all just accept that it’s hard on us all in different ways?!

Ignorant people and pregnancy hormones are not a fun mix 😂

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Oh yea i've had the classic 'get all the sleep you can now' like i can store it somewhere 🤣

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Hahaha honestly ‘ just wait ‘ the ‘ just wait ‘ comments get even worse after birth 🤣 feel free to vent here by the way ☺️ my sister in law was literally 8 weeks more pregnant than me and that’s all she said to me ALL THE TIME I was like you’re not even that far ahead of me and also we have two completely different bodies 😂 🤷🏽‍♀️ people just few they can always dole out unsolicited advice and it’s so annoying . You’re feelings are absolutely valid and you only know what you know and you personally experience so I find these comments so unhelpful … I’m 25 weeks with my second and although I know it gets worse I can still complain about how I feel right now ! Sending solidarity 🙌🏽❤️❤️❤️

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Yeah the sleep comments really annoy me... I'm exhausted and cant get an uninterrupted sleep atm between leg cramps and having to pee and baby kicking. I get especially annoyed with men cause it just proves how ignorant they are to what goes on in a woman's body during pregnancy. Also my MIL keeps going on about how babies never sleep and I'm like some do some sleep all night. I'm so lucky and happy to be pregnant and I feel like I should be allowed to have a moan occasionally without being told how much worse it will get

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@Sarah aw the leg cramps are the worst, my hips as soon as i lie down are screaming with pain!

So unfortunate we can all say weve experienced these type of negative comments from people 😪 the world we live in now for acceptance and knowledge and we're still made to feel like were being a nuisance or complaining to much for whatever stage we are at 😒

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@Juliet thank you ! Sometimes you just need a good vent. And you're right, this is my first but just cos its gonna get worse doesn't make the now invalid 🙈 people need to mins there own !
We are in this together 😊

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Yes to this🙄👏 most annoying thing ever!!! Ironically comes from people who have had children who you would think would understand fully the full ins and out of pregnancy!!

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Right ! Thats what i find most strange, like my partner whos a male is more sympathetic and understanding that women i know who have had babies !! Youd think theyd get it 🙈

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Im on the same boat! I too have always had a very small frame and my body is reallyyy struggling with the extra weight 😣 Even though people aren’t even able to tell I am pregnant and I’m now 25 weeks. Just because you can’t tell, doesn’t mean my body isn’t in agony 🥺 I’m having an extremely difficult pregnancy and the last time I spoke to my midwife she told me I should be « enjoying » it not « enduring » it!!!!! 😠

Like yourself, my husband has been way more understanding than even some professionals and other ladies. I think pregnancy varies for everyone, we need to be more compassionate 🌷

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I feel this so much. My MIL is the worst for saying negative things about the pregnancy. I have SPG and she’s always saying I shouldn’t be in pain cause she wasn’t etc. I’ve not been sleeping right since about 18 weeks. I’m a plus size girl but this extra weight has knocked me sideways a bit now. I have diabetes so that could be the reason. Just remember it’s your body and you’re entitled to feel the way you do, don’t let anyone get you down for it. And same with your delivery. It’s your choices, not theirs. Every pregnancy is different, just keep yourself safe as that’s what’s important.

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I'm so with you. The judgement and questions when you're pregnant are unreal!

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I'm with you too ! Judgement, sarcastic comments of "oh your struggling now, wait til babya here" and people just generally touching my stomach... like seriously people... I'm pregnant, I'm still me, I'm hormonal and every now and then, just need someone to validate my feelings... or F off... had a bad day today... can you tell 😂

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