Toothbrushing and feeding to sleep

New to this, so what do people do about the last milk of the day and teeth brushing?

My boy is cutting his first tooth, so I’m thinking about the brushing part but normally he has his bottle and falls asleep in my arms. Isn’t it better to brush after the bottle because of the sugars in formula?

Do I need to find a new time during the routine to have the bottle instead? When are people doing it?

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I might be doing it wrong but he has still a bottle to sleep and I brush his teeth first. It’s probably not ideal but the way he is at the moment with the pain/regression he needs the comfort. So bath, brush teeth and bottle x

I'm brushing before the bottle at the moment, I'll switch it eventually I just haven't worked out how yet 🤷🏻‍♀️

We brush teeth before the bottle too as otherwise it wakes him up and he gets annoyed 😂

I’m brushing before the bottle at the moment still as long as your doing it twice a day there should be no issue plenty of time to do it before bed when they no longer rely on a bottle before bed and the routine changes… If a baby is just drinking cows milk then brushing teeth after a bottle at night time would be better because cows milk has sugar

I’m having the same dilemma as she’s also cutting her first tooth. Personally I’m going to try switch up the bedtime routine and do bottle earlier, then read a little bedtime story in her room when we’d usually have the bottle instead. I imagine it will be a struggle at first though!

Ok if other people are still doing the bottle after the teeth are brushed I think I’ll go with that to start as it makes life easier! Just wasn’t sure if people did that! Thanks

I feed 30 mins before bed and in a separate room to the bedroom, but I started doing this ages ago so she wasn’t feeding to sleep

We were doing before the bottle during bath time to get her used to it but as she’s able to put herself to sleep and self soothe, we had no issue with switching it to after the bottle. Definitely see how you get it on with it before the bottle and when you’re more comfortable as bubba gets older, to doing it after as that’s the best way (for their teeth to avoid bottle rot) to do it x

I brush his teeth first and then give him his bottle before putting him down to sleep. But I might be wrong in doing this I’m not sure x

You have to brush his teeth after the last bottle, there's not much point of doing this before it as he still falls asleep with sugar on his teeth. If he's asleep, you can do it without waking him up 🙂

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The house is quiet.
Finally, a moment to myself.
I sit on the couch, expressing milk for his next feed.
Time circles my mind.
Do I have enough time to write this?
Should I sleep instead?
It’s getting late.
I should be grateful.
I should be present.
I should… I should.
The guilt.
The intrusive thoughts.
The disconnection from self.
The robotic washing of bottles, clothes, and dishes.
Then the question returns.
Do I have enough time for me?
What me?
Who am I?
Where am I?
I miss her.
I miss me.
Who have I become?
I have become a mother.
I am everything to this little human who will one day call me mum.
His life depends on me with every waking moment.
I give.
And I give.
Then he smiles.
And suddenly I see him
the little human I have nourished with tired eyes,
with time,
with love stretched beyond capacity.
Sometimes I leave to rest.
To breathe.
But even then my mind returns home.
I should be there.
I should be caring for my baby.
Is this normal?
Am I normal?
I feel myself unbecoming the woman I once knew so well.
They say this time is sacred.
And it is.
But it goes fast.
Maybe because we are not fully here in these early days.
We are surviving.
Living on autopilot.
Days blur together.
Until suddenly he shows me something new —
a smile,
a look,
a tiny trick he has learned.
And that moment is priceless.
His beautiful smile.
His big, beautiful eyes.
He is beginning his life
as I share mine
to keep him thriving.
A sacred sacrifice.
A whirlwind.
A shift in reality.
Who am I?
I am mother.

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