How to deal with MIL

My MIL switched up and became a completely hateful person when I got pregnant. I’m 25 weeks now and she’s causing a lot of stress, I’m trying so hard to ignore and sometimes I really don’t care but sometimes it really annoys me, for example when she tells her son that she knows people better than him and she sees that I will never be a good mother or a wife and he should be careful.. or when she tells him that I don’t know anything about motherhood because I’m so (feminine) and I care about myself. (I come from a family of 9 and I raised my 3 little siblings I’m sure I’ll be fine and know how to raise my son) I don’t usually talk to her after she blocked me and decided to cut everything off even hi we don’t say to each other but lately I’ve been seeing texts from her to my husband telling him to leave me and she will never forgive him if he doesn’t. Also she told my husband to not name my son the name I picked cuz apparently I have no experience in life and she said if you name your son a name she picks I will never call him I’ll use my finger and say you kid.. my question is how can I detach myself completely from her and make her leave me and my family alone - my husband is on my side. I’m trying to make her understand that she has no right in anything specially because she never asked me how I’m doing while pregnant. And now she’s coming to name my son ?

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I think you guys need to distance each other MIL does not get to be disrespectful to you. If someone told me "if you name YOUR CHILD that ill POINT at him and say hey you?" I would lose it all together!!! She wouldn't even have the chance to address him either you use his name or f off.

No contact until she can learn respect. Your husband needs to be the one to put her in her place. First by telling her she isn’t allowed or welcome in your home with her disgusting attitude. When your husband married you he chose you over anyone and you become one she takes a back seat. Her wants, needs, and opinions all stop when he stops allowing it. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Sorry if I offended you. What are you naming your son. If she shows up to your house I suggest you leave and in the hospital they have security you can have her removed without ever seeing her it’s wonderful you tell your nurse who isn’t allowed they tell security and put it in the system.

What Lauren said. If someone doesn’t reposed the mother what makes them think they have access to their baby? Crazy

I would cut her off completely, she sounds so hateful. It must be awful having to deal with this & im glad your husband is supporting you. Honestly cut her off and enjoy your pregnancy/newborn bubble without that negative energy penetrating it x

You need to seek counseling alone and with your partner. This is not a “have it both ways situation” this has 100% become a choice between his mom and his FAMILY he has created. She may try to act differently and want all the contact with your son after he is born and that is unhinged. I’m so sorry

Ohhh my MIL was the same! Was fine with me, never close but fine. But then I got pregnant and it completely changed. I think they get jealous about their sons moving in and starting a new life. It’s definitely up to your partner to speak up and shut down that behaviour immediately! And if she continues to disrespect you, then it needs to be clear she will lose her relationship with her grandchild. My MIL called me fat while pregnant, hated my baby name so referred to him as a different name instead, posted my baby’s scan photos before me and revealed his gender before me, brought along strangers to my baby shower, never checked in to see how me and baby were doing, never invited us over etc 😅 I feel your pain!

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