Giving up parental rights

what would change if all parental responsibility was on the father? would you move out and leave? what would happen to you? would you seek therapy, live your own life, etc. what is it you want to achieve by signing away parental responsibility? all I see here is a fit amazing parent worried for their babies because she’s really struggling to cope, it may be hard to hear but there is nobody else in the world that’s more fit for your babies than you. nobody. X

It's very rare for a person to have their parental responsibility removed this would usually be done via adoption or in really significant cases of abuse where a judge removes it. it would be impossible to remove your responsibility without their father knowing as he would need to know he is now the only person with the responsibility for your children.

Whilst you have parental responsibility your partner can exercise his without you needing to. Also its important to consider that you might feel like this now but in 5 years you might be in a different place managing better. If you are really serious about this I would go and speak to a solicitor, they usually offer a free half hour or hour x

@Rae i am under the crisis team and classed as disabled too. Social services will be round me like flies round s*** when i go to the doctor for support. I would be able to give him my tenancy so he is able to run the home in his name and be entitled to all child benefits. I am very unwell and i don't see a light at the end of my tunnel where my babies will grow up happy. Trust me when i say, i have literally exhausted everything x

@Kelly thank you for the guidance this is really helpful sadly my life will not improve.

I'm so sorry that you're currently struggling so much! 💜
How old are the babies?

2 and 6 months x

Social services don’t even want to take children away, they support mothers as much as they can so the children stay there. CPS have been involved with me for a year+ now because I rang them myself saying I will kill myself or my child if no one helps me. My daughter is on a protection plan, I smoke weed the entire time where in England it’s illegal but CPS said that’s okay as there was no parenting issues other than me wanting to die and not parent bc I hate my life lol. I have diagnosed depression, anxiety & CPTSD. I’m in DBT, on anti depressants and beta blockers. I am classed as mentally disabled and unable to work. I would have bouts of rage and sadness around my daughter. They witnessed my meltdowns. And guess what? They still didn’t say I’m not fit to be a parent, they said I’m SUFFERING. And the past year I’ve gotten so much better with their help. Reading your post just made me think it was written by myself a year ago.

Please feel free to DM me, I’d be more than happy to talk to you. Your post just made me think of me a year ago when I thought I’d be better off dead than being a mother and I know for a fact you can get out of this dark hole and be happy again. 💗

If you're willing to give up your parental rights, it likely would be a good idea to get a social worker in to come and help, it would seem if you're willing for your children to be raised by their father solely then he is a protective factor, and social workers would recognise and work with this. There is soo much stigma around mental health so I know it makes it hard to accept help but there is also a lot of stigma around social workers actually do because only the bad things get published its not possible for the media to report on all of the families they do actually help because of confidentiality. Rae has been kind in sharing her experience and I know there are many other people who have been supported too. Mental health is fluid and can change for everyone even if it doesn't feel like it right now x