Bubs 1st birthday

I don’t know if I’m being the asshole here but my MIL said to me yesterday “I want to take you (my husband and I) and our daughter out for a meal on the night of her first birthday, it’s a special day. I know it is, I wanted my husband, my baby and I to go out that night to celebrate being a family for a whole year… but not with her. But now how do I say no? And what about my parents? When I asked her that she said she just wanted to take us. How is that fair? Why does she get to see our daughter and celebrate but not my parents? I’m so fuming. My husband doesn’t mind. But I do. And now when I say no I’m going to be the bad guy. But it’s just not what I want at all. It’s our special day we will never get her first birthday back. Argh. Sorry angry rant!

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Just say it doesn't suit but the day before or after would suit better

To be completely honest she isn't your mum. Your husband needs to tell her no My mil did the same and my husband is the biggest mummies boy but I explained I just want it to be us as a family everyone else can celebrate it after or before. On the day irs YOUR babies birthday. Tell him to say as the others said on this post. Sorry mum, maybe the day after as we already made olans

Not an asshole at all, I feel the exact same! Luckily my husband is on the same page as me too. We are having a party two days prior for all family to celebrate. Like you say what about other family members? Where is the line drawn? Stick to your guns x

I would of just said thankyou for the offer but we were thinking xyz as want to include my parents as well on her big day.

definitely reschedule to another day OR have your husband reschedule. You don’t have to spend this special occasion with her if you don’t want to, and yes it’s not fair to your parents!!

Weird.. you said you wanted to be alone that night... but what about your parents? If you're going to include your parents only that very odd. Either both parents on both sides or split the day or another day... everyone keeps saying it's your choice your baby...apparently the husband has no rights or say and no matter, cause he's a sperm Donor? A whole year as family lol ? It's the strangest things you read here ... every women wants to suffocate their man and child... I'lts not enough your together , you need to control everything... it's one of many bdays .at least you have grandma interested in bothering with taking you out. Unless she loaded why she taking out everyone and paying for all bills. That bit much to expect that. Pretty kind gesture to be interested in your kid .. oh wait is her sons kid too 😳

@Aliyah wow What an unhelpful and shit comment 👍🏻 cheers

To all the other comments (minus Aliyah) Thanks 😊 You gave me the confidence and now my husband and I have rescheduled her a few days before and will look at a date with my parents so we all get the time with our little girl! X

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