In need of an advice!
Me and my bbd have been separated for 2 yrs now. Everything was fine we were on a set daily schedule with our baby girl. She’s 4.
Recently I found out he had a girlfriend, maybe about 3 months ago and I was cool with it. You know? Like ok good for him….
But I told him recently that I don’t want anyone in my daughters life until we both agreed is time. And I don’t want her to meet who we are dating until it’s been a good time idk or until we know it’s something serious and formal.
He does not agree. And told that I cannot tell him what to do when he sees his daughter. And that I’m not gonna control his life.
Do you guys think this is wrong ?
I’m asking to be considered when it comes to who is gonna be in my daughters life.
He’s been in this new relationship for only a few months.
Pls tell me your experiences.
Im 30 yrs old and first time mom by the way.
Thanks!!!
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I actually have been on the girlfriends side of things and I completely agree with you. I was in a relationship with someone and he had 2 daughters and he let me meet them very early in the relationship. I think like our second date we took his daughters to a pumpkin patch. Me and him dated for only a couple months but I saw his daughters every weekend when he would pick them up from his bms, and when we finally broke up I felt really guilty because I was seeing his daughters all the time and they were very comfortable with me. It’s not right to bring people in and out of your children’s lives because they don’t understand things like we do. And now that I just had my daughter 3 weeks ago I have no intention of dating anyone and even if I do I don’t plan on letting them meet my daughter until I know it’s serious and they’re not going anywhere lol.
That’s exactly what I think. I just don’t want my daughter to meet anyone yet until I know it’s something serious and for more than just 3-4 months.
She’s only 4 and I wouldn’t want her all confused to why I bring guys around ( if I was dating but I’m not) or if dad was bringing his girlfriend around when they barely met 3-4 months ago.
Thanks so much for telling me your experiences. ❤️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Babies are looking for just love they don't understand Life yet and I feel when they are very young they shouldn't be introduced to anyone else until they are able to make decisions on their own because it's a lot of emotions involved and it's not fair for them to have to deal with the AFTERMATH of any other relationship! I say that to say this kids need to be around their parents because they are learning their parents personally (favorite color, food, likes, dislikes and the list goes on) and for them to be confused about other views and this and that it's just ALL TOO MUCH FOR THEM! Children need LOVE, consistency, guidance, support!
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