Need to vent..
So, my boyfriends entire family are alcoholics. They get mean and snappy with and without alcohol and he laughs it off and says “they aren’t alcoholics, it’s just who they are.”
Well, I noticed that he gets like that when he drinks, hasn’t had any drinks in a couple months since we were trying to conceive and we did.. and now he’s back to drinking again…
Is it wrong of me to feel hurt and annoyed by this? He hasn’t been been and cruel since he stopped and now I’m just wondering if I’m going to have to up and move my daughter and I while pregnant knowing what’s about to happen again with him drinking… 😞
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you have every right to feel the way you do. drinking like this isn’t healthy and if his family are alcoholics, he most likely is too or loves to drink a lot because it’s accepted. my entire family is also alcoholics. mom, dad, aunts, uncles, cousins… and so i was i. until i found freedom with God and i’ve been sober for over a year but let me tell you, alcohol causes SO many problems. I’m dealing with my parents being drunk right now blowing up my phone and being toxic. it gets worse with time too. Just be cautious, explain to him how you feel and how you think it’s a problem how he drinks too much or can’t go without it and how you feel like you and your daughter will be hurt by this in the long run. explain this all in love of course, if he gets defensive it can cause a massive argument but just let him know that something needs to change
Drugs and alcohol are the main killers of many friendships and family. As someone whose parents chose drugs and alcohol over them, you are amazing for seeing this as a problem. Not many people do. Have you tried talking to him again as he started drinking again? I would share your worries. You have every right to be annoyed, upset or disappointed. You seem smart enough and seem to have a great head on your shoulders as well as have amazing motherly instincts.. listen to them. Remember to gather evidence/proof just in case. Stay safe.
Hi ladies, I grew up with my dad being an alcoholic and my late grandmother so I saw a lot when I was a child and onward. I used to drink a lot but I was with an ex who was a major alcoholic, he would cheat on me, gaslight me, was verbally and mentally abusive as well. Even hit me once.
Then fast forward to another ex who liked to go to the bar all the time was very abusive mentally, physically, verbally. Even put my daughter in danger several times… so I just know what it looks like…
He came home with beer and alcohol.. says he bought the bottle because he can’t sleep at night anymore as he’s waiting on his meds from the Va.. so I went off because he tried to throw excuses out that he only got mean because we lived with his mom, etc. which is a lie and he tried telling me I was wrong.. I told him you can’t tell me I’m wrong on something when every time you’ve gotten mean, you were drunk so how would you remember? He then shut up real fast… a beer here and there wouldn’t bug me..
But he doesn’t stop at one or two and has said that he can’t just stay with a buzz.. so we will see if this actually lasts..
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