I resent my baby’s father
I currently have a two month old and the father and I are split up, we don’t live together and are trying to work on our relationship again. The problem is he goes out almost every night to hangout with friends, goes to concerts, or go to smoke and drink. This whole time I’m with baby because baby lives with me. I feel so resentful because I am never able to go out at night or hang out with my friends as I’m always on mom duty. I’m currently extremely sick and so is my baby so taking care of her and myself is extremely difficult especially since I am alone, he has not offered to help me or watch her for a couple hours so I can sleep. When I brought up how sick I am and how hard it is being alone he said he’s busy tomorrow and can’t help, he has to drive a couple hours away to look at a piece of land his mom bought. Like wtf I’m sorry I don’t think that’s important at all. He wants me to move back in with him but I really don’t want to if he’s going to leave me at night every night to take care of the baby alone.
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I’m currently going through the same thing. Only baby is not here yet but I been alone while pregnant and he been out four nights in the row. But it’s like there more things that still need to be done with baby. I’m due October 11th but won’t be induced till 20. He pays his own rent and been stressful for him, I feel guilty cause I’m just adding another bill/baby on to him but at the same time my feelings, or me being stuck in the house is never a factor. But I let my guilt get in the way of speaking up. Plus I don’t wanna seem bitchy or like idk jealous so I just let him do him. Really don’t have no advice just wanted to let you know your not the only one
I feel you. My husband comes home at 6 or 7pm & leaves to attend a lesson at 8 till 9:30pm. Basically, we only spend a couple of hours as a family. On the weekends, he catches up with friends. I hangout with friends like once every 2 or 3wks becausemy daughter is attached to me. You probably feel like he's useless, but just keep on communicating.
Some people don’t understand what is it to be a parent, maybe you need to give him an ultimatum or teach him because we all just want responsible partners and fathers and that will mean making sacrifices. Our lives are turned 180 the second we push the child out. It’s only fair that they can try and consider our feelings and comfort if we are at home all day with their flesh and blood.
We have to consider their options and comfort but they don’t think about us. It is quite selfish and if you want to teach them then you’re really gonna have to spell out loud and clearly. I hope he can come to an understanding soon but if not, for our sanity, we know where the door is.
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