Is it weird?
So I mentioned to my boyfriend the other day that I want both him and my dad with me when I give birth and he said he thinks it’s a bit weird? Like I understand what he means but my mum died when I was 10 and if she was still alive I’d have her in there with me 1000% but I’m my dads only child so I want him to be with me like every step of the way too, he’s literally been my rock and I don’t know what I would actually do without him. Since my boyfriends said it’s a bit weird it’s kinda made me feel a bit shit … so my question is like is it weird that I want my dad with us in there too or is it not?
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Absolutely not weird at all! It’s your birth you should be able to decide what is going to make you most comfortable, and like you said your dad is your rock and this is when you’re going to need that rock the most, I understand what he’s trying to say but maybe he doesn’t fully understand your reasonings and how special it will be for him too xx
Absolutely not weird at all. Your birth support is YOURS, and likely your boyfriend will be as much use as a wet blanket (this isnt an insult, most first time dads have no idea what to do and just slump in a corner with a panicked look on their face). Your dad might not be a dab hand at it but at least he's semi familiar with what the process is and is more likely to advocate for you. I don't think this is weird at all x
No, it's not weird at all. I'm having my sister and my boyfriend in there with me as I'm not with my sons dad. It's about you and your child, not him, so you can have whoever you want. X
Not weird at all my mum left me when i was a young age so all i had growing up was my dad but my opinion i wouldnt have my dad when i give birth dont think my dad would want to be their when i give birth either tbh i think its a very special delicate time for you & your partner and the birth of your baby xx
No it’s not weird at all, although my dad didn’t come to the hospital when I had my son, we called him on the phone during my labour to keep him updated.
Both my mum and dad are great support but my dad is the one I go to more during harder times and when I am in pain, so it’s just what’s right for you
You are at your most vulnerable when you giving birth. Surround yourself with people that make you feel safe and will help make your birth calmer and therefore safer and easier on you and baby. It's probably strange for him as like everything there are stereotype ideas of what is expected. Focus on yourself and the needs of you and baby.
Our partner’s utterances hit us so hard.. hugs babes. NOT weird at all, your desire and needs are priority. Giving birth is a miraculous process, your wish should be granted.
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